“Just because something is addictive doesn’t mean that you will get addicted to it. But . . . if your stomach ties up in knots while you count the seconds waiting for a phone call from that special someone . . . if you hear a loud buzzing in your ears when you see a certain person’s car (or one just like it) . . . if your eyes burn when you hear a random love song or see a couple holding hands . . . if you suffer the twin agonies of craving for and withdrawing from a series of unrequited crushes or toxic relationships . . . if you always feel like you’re clutching at someone’s ankle and dragged across the floor as they try to leave the room . . . welcome to the club.” ― Ethlie Ann Vare
Looking for love, feeling happy only when you are in a relationship. The highs and lows of being in love can be addictive. Some people enjoy only the turbulent bit in a relationship. The adrenal rush, the pangs of jealousy, insecurity and headiness. The high of chasing love, getting bored easily with relationships or when the rush starts wearing off – finding excuses to leave the relationship are all signs of being addicted to being in love with love itself.
However, being out of control and too “high” on love can be as destructive as an addiction to alcohol, drugs, food or shopping. Take an honest look at your relationship history. Evaluate your part in the patterns. Look for common themes.
- Stop blaming your partners for your choices.
- Truthfully, you know healthy behavior from dysfunctional behavior. When you see unhealthy behavior; set limits or move on.
- Take responsibility for your own happiness. Stop expecting it to come from outside sources.
- If you know you have self -esteem issues; fix them, counseling is a good start.
- Strongly consider getting professional help. Therapy can save you a lot of pain and suffering; and help you learn how to have a healthy and satisfying relationships .
In tarot, The Devil Tarot card has several meanings that can be quite negative on first sight. The Devil symbolises temptation and addiction, which don’t tend to lead to happy outcomes. But the Devil Tarot card is not all bad. This card is a wake up call and acts as a warning to the Querent of the dangers of being obsessed with unhealthy relationships, alcohol and sex.
In the Tarot, the suit of cups represents emotions. The contents of the cups here represent temptation. Depending on which position the 7 of cups come up in, it speaks about being delusional. Maybe you are refusing to see the relationship as it is but you insist on having your own version of the relationship.
The adjoining cards finally decide the final result.
The lights are on but you’re not home
Your mind is not your own
Your heart sweats, your body shakes
Another kiss is all it takes
You can’t sleep, you can’t eat
There’s no doubt, you’re in deep
Your throat is tight, you can’t breathe
Another kiss is all you need
Whoa, you like to think
That you’re immune to the stuff, oh yeah
It’s closer to the truth
To say you can’t get enough
You know you’re gonna have to face it
You’re addicted to love – Robert Palmer: Addicted to love