Define your own grieving – it may take a few months, it may take years. There’s no rush. There are no rules for healing. Nor a time frame.Read more
Posted: January 11, 2019
“Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.” — Brene Brown We are taught as children to be selfless, to be okay when…
We usually feel resentful when we get a feeling that we are being bullied or being taken granted for. It may also be a sign of being pushed beyond our limits by the situation making us feel guilty (wanting to be a good friend) This discomfort is a cue that someone is crossing their boundary with you.
Be careful of your thoughts. Catch and nip the negative thoughts in bud. If you find it hard maybe because you grew up in a place which had either constant chaos or negativity, practice saying positive affirmations to yourself.
We cannot erase emotional memory, we can partially bury grief related feelings by fooling the mind, but the emotional triggers are deeper and it’s hard to control them. As per research, emotional triggers are often linked with dates, events in order for our memory to remind us. For the happy memories, it’s fine but for the painful one’s, the mind tries to do the opposite of what the memory is doing – not remember.
In some cases, where it’s done consciously, the relationship has run it’s course. Now, it’s only a matter of time before it breaks. Silence used as a withdrawal weapon in a relationship only cements the fact that it’s not worth fighting for. Controlling someone else’s thoughts and point of views destroys all possibilities of an authentic dialogue. Conversations require courage, they are an acknowledgement that there’s work that needs to be done.