vul•ner•a•ble: capable of being physically or emotionally wounded or being open to attack or damage.
The bitter truth about being vulnerable is: it’s misunderstood. Remember the times, you were asked to get your sh*t together, get a grip of your life and reminded how old you were etc etc…
Being vulnerable is a strength few people understand and accept. Those who get overwhelmed by it look at it as a weakness, repulsed or embarrassed by the emotions they witness.
The truth is courage and vulnerability go hand in hand. Each cannot exist without the other.
However, do be careful as to who you share it with. People are often not comfortable dealing with complex emotions and instead of feeling supported, you may end up feeling guilty about your feelings or develop feelings of shame or low self esteem. You are also not a nut job if you share your insecurities or sadness … all you are doing is looking for empathy and love.
According to Dr. Brown, disengagement is the most dangerous factor that erodes trust in a relationship. The only way to avoid this is to risk being vulnerable with your partner by asking for help, standing up for yourself, sharing unpopular opinions, and having faith in yourself and your partner.
I am a big believer of therapy. If your partner is closed to your vulnerability, seek a therapist. Get counselling done. We all need a hand to hold in our moments of darkness and there is no glory in suffering alone.
Take care of yourself , be courageous, be accountable for your own inner well being. And stop apologising for yourself.