One of the first steps we can take, whether we are seeking physical or emotional healing, says Kornfield, is to hold ourselves with compassion and love. “Just as yeast is…Read more
Examine what your beliefs are about your relationship and explore the background – right till your childhood and see carefully what your attachment style is. Do you tend to walk away? Do you get needy or desperate? Do you listen yet get defensive and judgemental?
We cannot erase emotional memory, we can partially bury grief related feelings by fooling the mind, but the emotional triggers are deeper and it’s hard to control them. As per research, emotional triggers are often linked with dates, events in order for our memory to remind us. For the happy memories, it’s fine but for the painful one’s, the mind tries to do the opposite of what the memory is doing – not remember.
In some cases, where it’s done consciously, the relationship has run it’s course. Now, it’s only a matter of time before it breaks. Silence used as a withdrawal weapon in a relationship only cements the fact that it’s not worth fighting for. Controlling someone else’s thoughts and point of views destroys all possibilities of an authentic dialogue. Conversations require courage, they are an acknowledgement that there’s work that needs to be done.