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There Are No Accidents In Choosing The People We Love….

As per the Buddhist teaching, “there are no coincidences in life. The people we choose as partners have a purpose in our life. Whether it is to make us grow in specific areas of our life or to support us in our journey, it depends on the kind of connect we have with them. The effects of our interaction contribute to the real connections between ourselves and others so that they are never lost. This is more than just what your actions affect the world that we live in and will rebound from that world. This is about the effects of actions determining the connections you will encounter throughout all life times in this or any other realm of existence”.

Is it coincidence that we meet someone just at the right time when the odds of it happening are a million to one? Are chances meetings or coincidences just a distraction, or are they an indication that the nature of reality is very different from the way we habitually regard it? Jung talked of this kind of phenomenon in terms of synchronicity. It seems to happen more and more as one embarks on a spiritual path. I noticed it happen in a subtle form in begining and gradually being more pronounced since I embarked on the path to awareness. Simple instances like, thinking about a certain friend who has been out of touch and getting a phone call from them or even bumping into them accidently. More significant have been with people who absolutely were not in touch for years but were there on my mind – suddenly reappear and pick the friendship from where it was left.

Sometimes, people come in our lives as catalysts, to shake us, to remind us that it’s not to late, to break through our stagnant life patterns and other times we need them to remind us and to hold space for us.

Ironically, we may not understand the purpose of every person we meet in this life… In some ways, we have to look at the world as a giant fabric of vibrant colours, like a weave running all through it — some threads being smooth and gentle, while other uneven burlap. Each weave depicts a different meeting that has happened or yet to happen.

Though, not all encounters are supposed to last forever; sometimes, those encounters happen momentarily.. Perhaps it was to delay you, so that a mishap could be avoided or maybe even to arrange a meeting for you with a potential lover. Sometimes, the Universe sends us people to help us on our journey, even if they aren’t meant to contribute much or be a significant part of it.

The purpose of a relationship is to have the courage to see ourselves as we are… see the warts, the fear, the brokenness and the courage in us, that we are otherwise unconscious of.

The purpose of a relationship is to get under our skin, infuriate, overjoy and destroy us, so we can understand what drives us mad, what overwhelms us, and where we need to give ourselves love….and if you have a partner who has the courage to help you grow and is supportive of you as an individual, not feeding on your insecurities but stands beside you while you come undone and holds that space for you while you put yourself together…you’re home.

The purpose of a relationship is not to fix us, or heal us, or to make us whole and happy, it is to show us where we need fixing, and what parts of us are still broken, and yes, it is also not about being mocked or ridiculed or being belittled about your brokenness….it’s about both the partners understanding that nobody can do this work, or make us happy but ourselves.

So, roll your sleeves and have the courage to hold the space for the one you love – maybe they will come undone not once but several times…and so will you…have the patience to know, we all are capable of healing and loving deeply, authentically – given the chance.

July Full Moon In Capricorn : Power Struggles & Transformation

July full moon in Capricorn will highlights power struggles in relationships. Like the cardinal cross tussel, you can expect different areas of your life at polarities with each other. The time you spend at work versus the time you spend at home. Your heart versus your head. Try and keep your ego in check. Over analysing situations, working yourself up to an emotional mess are to watch out for. Like all full moon’s this moon too, is a a powerhouse of building up on inner tensions which would demand a release.
Focus on channelising your energy for changing challenging situations in your life that may have formed a pattern. Waiting for the “right” time to change could be the biggest mistake you could be convincing yourself of. Use your inner strength to transform pain bodies in your life.

Depending on the placement of your chart where the full moon will be highlighting the specific area of your life, resist the urge to control the outcome of a certain situation.

In your relationships, if there has been disharmony or constant conflict, then maybe it’s a time to look at your own conditioning closely. Try not to hang on to people from the past or your previous relationships either with a sense of regret or guilt. Rather than be overwhelmed with a sense of hopelessness, allow awareness to come in and let balance prevail. Some of you may feel manipulated, controlled or find people close to you guilt tripping and blaming you for it. Use this time to surround yourself with positive influences, nurture yourself, take time to meditate.

Since the July full moon is in Capricorn, which is only a degree away from Pluto,the planet of unearthing deeper feelings and intensity and often transforms only through destruction and renewal. This is as powerful as a full moon can get. Emotions are already high at a full moon but now they become all-powerful, all-consuming.

Try not to be come obsessed with how you are feeling. However, some of you may have powerful dreams – keep a journal at hand. Your intuitions could be right but your judgment could be impaired.

Change is imperative, whether you seek it or it’s forced upon you. The goal is to transform your patterns and not be resistant.

Allow your soul to grow so you may lead a better, aware life.

The Truth About Vulnerability

\ vul•ner•a•ble: capable of being physically or emotionally wounded or being open to attack or damage. \

The bitter truth about being vulnerable is: it’s misunderstood. Remember the times, you were asked to get your sh*t together, get a grip of your life and reminded how old you were etc etc…

Being vulnerable is a strength few people understand and accept. Those who get overwhelmed by it look at it as a weakness, repulsed or embarrassed by the emotions they witness.

The truth is courage and vulnerability go hand in hand. Each cannot exist without the other.

However, do be careful as to who you share it with. People are often not comfortable dealing with complex emotions and instead of feeling supported,  you may end up feeling guilty about your feelings or develop feelings of shame or low self esteem.  You are also not a nut job if you share  your insecurities or sadness … all you are doing is looking for empathy and love.

According to Dr. Brown, disengagement is the most dangerous factor that erodes trust in a relationship. The only way to avoid this is to risk being vulnerable with your partner by asking for help, standing up for yourself, sharing unpopular opinions, and having faith in yourself and your partner.

I am a big believer of therapy. If your partner is closed to your vulnerability, seek a therapist. Get counselling done. We all need a hand to hold in our moments of darkness and there is no glory in suffering alone.

Take care of yourself , be courageous, be accountable for your own inner well being. And stop apologising for yourself.

Are You With A Soulmate Or A Wound mate?

We often get confused between our soulmate and wound mate. One operates out of love and another ego. It can be amazingly confusing as signals received from both can be similar. A strong soul connection, coupled with an electrifying chemistry can confuse the best of us. The lessons unfortunately can be both, beautiful and tragic at the same time.

A wound mate is often your own splitting image, carrying their hurts, unsorted emotional scarring from childhood or from repetitive toxic relationships, they become your partners in crime. Misery loves company as do wound mates. You feel connected through pain, grief and at times just the plain old feeling of constant unsupported or unloved. Unfortunately, neither of these partners survive the relationship or can hope of building a strong foundation as the sensitivities can always be at an high with neither willing to heal.

 

The more light gets shone on our dark places, the more we realise corners that have not been dusted or some simply been ignored over the years, stuff we thought we had sorted – now seems to lie scattered on the floor. What may have been a daunting task in the past now seems impossible. Constantly being ridiculed about our grief or scars helps non one heal but just open the wound again and again. With constant criticism, it becomes very hard to trust wound partners or bare your authentic self to them. The unfortunate thing with a wound mate is, over a period of time you start wearing a mask, as your darker side is uncomfortable to deal with. Until, both partners commit to operate from a place of empathy and fearlessness, this kind of a relationship is often a waste of emotions and energy for all you would do is press constant triggers in each other and keep the wounds in focus.

 

A soul mate interestingly does not necessarily save you in the traditional way, they guide you through narrow paths, giving you your own torch, enabling you. They don’t accuse you of having wound, but on seeing your scars tenderly patch them by giving you another perspective. They will create space for you, listen to you without prejudice, seldom mocking or assuming the worst of you. You are allowed to unpack your baggage. No lengthy explanations required on what you said and what you meant…for they always view you with trust.

If the ego is always in control, constantly dominating, it becomes hard for the wound mate to convert into a soulmate. Breaking down of the ego and establishing a soul connect is though hard but fulfilling work. It is important to recognise that when we constantly feel threatened, rejected we have entered into a relationship which would require considerable work and empathy towards your partner. Love is the most powerful healer, but you need to allow the love seep in the nooks and crevices of areas that hurt which may not always be as easy as it sounds but it’s not impossible.

 

 

 

An Ode To Full Moon 19th July

 

Full Moons tend to make us purge and release things from our lives, so we need to make sure that we are in control of this and no one is forcing our hand! Sometimes we can let go of things that we regret later, due to heightened emotions and the Full Moons perchance for saying ‘F*** You!’ The bright light of the sun throws a spotlight on our subconscious and our shadow. This can feel uncomfortable as the Sun literally blasts out the demons who have nowhere to hide. We had a gentle full moon as we began July and now with the full moon the time has come to cement what we started….for good or for bad. Things seen under the guise of a full moon are hazy…so be careful of what you keep and what you let go.

Use this Full Moon energy to purge things out, and discard redundant patterns, deep rooted fear from the sub-conciseness…and remember to put a lid on it for good.  Stay grounded as the Sun and the Moon are are in opposite zodiac. Cancer and Capricorn….Cancer’s need to cling and be emotional and Capricorns need to deal with the rationale. Maintain the balance of the yin and yang of solar and lunar harmony.

The beginning of the month if there has been an awareness to accomplish things or put your relationships in place, Full Moon gives the opportunity of firming them up.

Trust your intuition and balance your commitment to your family and work. The next two weeks, we will discover what this means for us. For now, let the work begin. The Full Moon is going to shine a powerful light on parts of our lives we have felt hesitant to express. Since Full Moon is all about emotions, be prepared to deal with the dark and murky feelings with all the gentleness and love you can manage. Be careful of what you say or do during this period, for the emotions could be unrefined, and not particularly rational as yet.

 

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When the thorn bush turns white, that’s when I’ll come home..

I am going out to see what I can sow

And I don’t know where I’ll go
And I don’t know what I’ll see
But I’ll try not to bring it back home with me

Like the morning sun your eyes will follow me
As you watch me wander, curse the powers that be
Cause all I want is here and now
But it’s already been and gone
Our intentions always last that bit too long” 

(Full Moon: Black Ghosts)

Beyond Fear Lies Freedom

“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection. Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.”― Brene Brown

Despite all the wisdom one reads about detaching, it’s natural to try hard in relationships, attaching yourself deeply emotionally and  have expectations. However, obsessing about the relationship, imagining the loss of it and the potential devastation it could cause is dangerous, not only to yourself, but to the relationship you are in. The bigger the sense of loss, the harder the mind clings – creating imaginary situations…it takes vicarious pleasure tormenting what it knows to be an illusion. And before you know, you are feeding the monster…guiltily in the beginning but soon the prankster mind knows by now that you’re tempted. So the game begins, between the rational, sane, secure you to a taunting, bullying child who keeps getting obnoxious with each acceptance of the illusion.

Imagining situations where your partner is cheating you either emotionally or sexting or even hiding information from you. It could be as simple as him/her catching up with an old friend on their way back from work and not telling you, fearing your reaction. It could be their past lovers who are still there on the phone diary, which could just be numbers for them, but they could seem threatening to you. The thought that anything can get triggered despite the love you share can be debilitating. You cannot be in a relationship 100% if you don’t trust or even feel secure. Looking over one’s shoulder has seldom resulted in healthy relationships.

Removing the intensity from what you are feeling often helps, and the first step is understanding what’s happening…..what’s real and what’s imagined. Stop working so hard at fixing the relationship, is there even something to fix…..look for the honest answer. The simplest thing is to just let go and move with the flow. Understand where the fear is coming from and what could be the possible reasons for it. Speak to your partner about it. Let him in your emotional house. This will not only build trust but it can deepen the relationship as well.

In times when fear grips you:

  • Remind yourself to stay connected to love.
  • Focus on what’s  working: More Abundance less lack
  • Increase your self worth: Remind yourself of all the achievements you had on your own
  • Make genuine peace with the past, else the past will continue to show up in your present. Know the past is….the past.
  • Keep it simple: At times when I am really upset I have a chat with my younger son and the simplistic way in which he views things makes me understand life again
  • Lace Up & Run
  • Calm your fears
  • Look him/her in the eyes and smile

“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” – Jack Canfield

Are You Addicted To Love?

“Just because something is addictive doesn’t mean that you will get addicted to it. But . . . if your stomach ties up in knots while you count the seconds waiting for a phone call from that special someone . . . if you hear a loud buzzing in your ears when you see a certain person’s car (or one just like it) . . . if your eyes burn when you hear a random love song or see a couple holding hands . . . if you suffer the twin agonies of craving for and withdrawing from a series of unrequited crushes or toxic relationships . . . if you always feel like you’re clutching at someone’s ankle and dragged across the floor as they try to leave the room . . . welcome to the club.”   ― Ethlie Ann Vare

Looking for love, feeling happy only when you are in a relationship. The highs and lows of being in love can be addictive. Some people enjoy only the turbulent bit in a relationship. The adrenal rush, the pangs of jealousy, insecurity and headiness. The high of chasing love, getting bored easily with relationships or when the rush starts wearing off – finding excuses to leave the relationship are all signs of being addicted to being in love with love itself.

However, being out of control and too “high” on love can be as destructive as an addiction to alcohol, drugs, food or shopping. Take an honest look at your relationship history. Evaluate your part in the patterns. Look for common themes.

  • Stop blaming your partners for your choices.
  • Truthfully, you know healthy behavior from dysfunctional behavior. When you see unhealthy behavior; set limits or move on.
  • Take responsibility for your own happiness. Stop expecting it to come from outside sources.
  • If you know you have self -esteem issues; fix them, counseling is a good start.
  • Strongly consider getting professional help. Therapy can save you a lot of pain and suffering; and help you learn how to have a healthy and satisfying relationships .

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In tarot, The Devil Tarot card has several meanings that can be quite negative on first sight. The Devil symbolises temptation and addiction, which don’t tend to lead to happy outcomes. But the Devil Tarot card is not all bad. This card is a wake up call and acts as a warning to the Querent of the dangers of being obsessed with  unhealthy relationships, alcohol and sex.

In the Tarot, the suit of cups represents emotions. The contents of the cups here represent temptation. Depending on which position  the  7 of cups come up in, it speaks about being delusional. Maybe you are refusing to see the relationship as it is but you insist on having your own version of the relationship.

The adjoining cards finally decide the final result.

 

The lights are on but you’re not home

Your mind is not your own
Your heart sweats, your body shakes
Another kiss is all it takes

You can’t sleep, you can’t eat
There’s no doubt, you’re in deep
Your throat is tight, you can’t breathe
Another kiss is all you need

Whoa, you like to think
That you’re immune to the stuff, oh yeah
It’s closer to the truth
To say you can’t get enough
You know you’re gonna have to face it
You’re addicted to love  – Robert Palmer: Addicted to love

A Time For Resurrection: Durga Pujo, Dusshera & Diwali

dussehraDussehra is one of the major Hindu festivals of India. It is celebrated throughout the country with great zeal and enthusiasm. People all over the country participate in the occasion in their own way. It is the day when Lord Rama killed the ten headed demon king Ravana and gave the throne of his kingdom Lanka to his brother Vibhishana.
Since that day, the day of Vijaya Dashmi is considered to be auspicious and festive by the people of India and is celebrated as the day that symbolizes the victory of  ‘Good over Evil’.
Homecoming of Durga Madurga

Daksha , the Lord of the Earth, and his wife Menaka , had a daughter called Sati. As a child, Sati started worshipping Lord Shiva as her would-be-husband. Lord Shiva was pleased with the Sati’s worship of him and married her. Daksha was against their marriage but could not prevent it. Daksha arranged a yagna to which everyone except Lord Shiva was invited. Sati, feeling ashamed of her father’s behaviour and shocked by the attitude meted towards her husband, killed herself. Lord Shiva was anguished when he discovered this. He lifted Sati’s body on his shoulders and started dancing madly. As the supreme power was dancing with wrath,Narayana the world was on the verge of destruction.

Then Lord came forward as a saviour and used his Chakra to cut Sati’s body into pieces. Those pieces fell from the shoulders of the dancing Shiva and scattered throughout the world. Shiva was pacified when the last piece fell from his shoulder. Lord Narayana revived Sati. The places where the pieces of Sati fell are known as the “Shakti Piths” or energy pits. Kalighat in Kolkata, Kamakshya near Guwahati and Vaishnav Devi in Jammu are three of these places.

In her next birth, Sati was born as Parvati or Shaila-Putri (First form of Durga), the daughter of Himalaya. Lord Narayana asked Shiva to forgive Daksha. Ever since, peace was restored and Durga with her children Saraswati, Lakshmi, Kartikeya, Ganesh and her two sakhis – Jaya and Vijaya visit her parents each year during the season of Sharatkal or autumn, when Durga-Puja is celebrated.

JudgmentIn Tarot the Judgement card has similar connotations. Aside from resurrection and revival, words with the re- prefix (means again, or to go back, return) helps to remember the concept too, such as: reawaken, rekindle, regenerate, renew, restore, redo… lots ofre-‘s!When the Judgement card appears in a reading, it’s about finding absolution. Through a period of self-evaluation, you will feel cleansed of your ‘sins’, wrongdoings and mistakes, and you will finally be released of your guilt and sorrow about the past. This represents a wonderful purging process and will leave you feeling refreshed and ready to take on any new challenges. The Judgement card suggests that you have had a recent epiphany or an ‘awakening’ where you have come to a realisation that you need to live your life in a different way and you need to be true to yourself and your needs. You have opened yourself up to a new possibility – to lead a fulfilling life that serves your higher needs and that offers inspiration and hope to others. You feel as though you have had a ‘calling’ in life, and you are getting much closer to the point where you need to take action. Something that was lying dormant within you, some unconscious knowledge or truth is finally being awakened and brought into the light.The Judgement card brings a past situation back into being and breathes new life into it, so something is revived and resurrected. The image in the card is often likened to Judgement Day but the theme is not one of being judged, it’s more in keeping with an awakening of the soul released from the past and born anew. There can also be a sense of karma, in reaping what you have previously sown.

When Judgement appears there’s always a past connection to the matter in question in some way, as revival would suggest. In career matters it could indicate somewhere you’ve previously worked or a past association that will be relevant in some way, connected to house moves it could suggest an old stomping ground you previously called home. As always, surrounding cards would provide the context but with Judgement it is something resurrected and coming back round, (death and rebirth) re-doing, rather than something completely new.

In Astrology we have the planet Pluto which resonates the new beginning.  Pluto, God of the Underworld, is the ruler of Scorpio. (In Greek mythology, the corresponding god was Hades). In Astrology, the energies of Pluto are transforming. Pluto represents subconscious forces, ruling all that is “below the surface”. On the up side, Pluto is associated with renewal and rebirth. It represents endings and new beginnings, as well as spiritual growth and rebirth. Negative expression of Pluto is an obsessive desire for power and control and general destructiveness.

Pluto operates on a deeper soul level.  We might think we are victims of a divorce, job or home loss, but in fact, some part of our psyche chose liberation from those things we thought we had to have in our lives.  Pluto isn’t like a hurricane coming through leaving water damage in its wake, but like a bomb that explodes turning everything to smithereens and ash.  But then from that ash, a phoenix emerges and turns into a soaring eagle with a wider view of life on the planet.  So in a way, Pluto transits force us to detach and none of us enjoy that process.  However, for people practicing Buddhism these Pluto transits will make more sense than to say someone whose life is about status, and consumerism while attaching to things, places and people.

This Pujo, Dusshera and Diwali – change, transform yourself.

Uproot all the negativity in your life, let the light shine through in your heart.

You Don’t Have To Be Cruel To Be Kind

I received a fan mail on my YouTube channel Tarot by Anisha, from a xyz gentleman asking me if I was single, interested in getting to know him better, and how come I spoke in English and where did I learn English from. All this from a man who claimed to be educated, is English (hence, feels he has a birthright on the language) I responded suggesting he Google India, etc and his  response in turn was abusive and rude – which obviously suggested his poor upbringing and lack of values.

In the past a mail like this would have upset me, but now it was simple. I knew I had the choice of either spoiling my mood or be wise and ignore it.

Over the years I have understood, the futility  of feeling bad over things that are negative.

I mentally jump aside. If it’s toxic – it has no place in my energy space. This also applies to chest beating people, the acquaintances one gathers  who rant now and then or maybe every morning as you scroll through FB.

Not allowing to be dragged in another persons drama or their public display of how passionately they feel (only on FB) is something one is careful about NOT indulging in.

As a Tarot reader, I am often caught in the dilemma of telling the brutal truth as it is or gently make the person understand the background and from where all the chaos is stemming from. The cards will clearly shout, “it’s futile, a dead end” to which I would decipher as “maybe the exhaustion of seeing the situation consistently with the same tired eyes, refuses to see the tiny window which is partially opened. ” For Tarot is dynamic, it is fluid – like our lives – which changes as our circumstances and situations change.

It’s exhausting I admit, to take the longer route  but by the end of it, I am happily exhausted in managing not to break hopes and desires.

Rudeness is lazy. It shows lack of concern and manners for the other person. While Tarot does demand a certain “harsh – truth” , wake up call etc – it’s important that the message gets delivered in the kindest way – one that will benefit the querent. There are rare cases where the best course is to tell it as it as so as to avoid the folly of going back to the same trap.

We all  have a right to express ourselves but we have no right to dishonour anyone.  Don’t go around judging the book by it’s cover.

If we fail to understand the complexities of good manners –  keep quite and stay polite.

Silence is dignified.

And it will allow you a graceful exit as well. 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Abandonment & Tarot

 abandonment:  əˈbandənm(ə)nt/ noun: the action or fact of abandoning or being abandoned.  “she had a feeling of utter abandonment and loneliness”
Most of our powerful memories are based on how certain experiences we had as a child- the joy or fear of what was or what was not shaped our subconscious. The fear stays like an errant child peeping through the door – emerging his head now and then reminding us not to take risks, to doubt and not to trust.
Love : feeling protected, secure in the knowledge that you will be picked up should you fall, that you are safe, taken care off – constant. Maybe somewhere this love is possible only between a parent and child – the selflessness, the promise.
Relationships that tire over a period of time, not because of anything but sheer laziness to make an effort to keep the relationship going. No spending time together – hurried matter of fact phone calls, brisk instructions are sadly counted as love. A simple, “how are you doing? ” seem to scare the best of us.
It’s too much of investment and effort.
When one person consciously chooses not to be involved in the relationship – it can feel very awkward and it hurts. Not belonging is a terrible feeling, as if you were wearing someone else’s shoes. It can leave a person bewildered on how you stop caring about what you’ve ached over, sweated over for years? You have to confront  painful feelings in order to heal. It’s okay if people you loved, let you down and abandoned you mid way because somewhere you no longer fitted in their scheme of things!
Be fearless. Rather than break – rise. Accept, embrace that people are people – they change.
Don’t get defensive and push people away. Importantly, DON’T blame yourself. It’s a understandable reaction, but an inappropriate one. If others couldn’t love us, or love us in ways that worked, that’s not our fault. Learn to separate yourselves from the behavior of others. And take responsibility for your healing, regardless of the people around you.
Believe in yourself, discover a new passion, live the life that you always dreamed of.

 

In Tarot, the Eight of Cups 8 of cupsindicates  that it is time to ask yourself what you can do to bring a deeper satisfaction and joy to your life beyond the obvious pursuit of material satisfaction and/or physical enjoyment.

The Eight of Cups also indicates that you are disappointed enough to walk away from everything you have built up so far. It could indicate a disappointment in love or dissatisfaction with material success. It could also indicate that you have over-extended yourself to the point of emotional exhaustion. Even though you have already come so far, you feel that you can no longer go on and your only choice is to walk away from the situation. You feel disappointed with yourself but you know that this is the right thing to do before you completely burn out. You may also be feeling that you are giving too much and not getting nearly enough in exchange.