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Gone Too Soon….

Like A Comet, Blazing ‘Cross The Evening Sky 
Gone Too Soon
Like A Rainbow, Fading In The Twinkling Of An Eye
Gone Too Soon
Like The Loss Of Sunlight, On A Cloudy Afternoon
Gone Too Soon
Like A Castle, Built Upon A Sandy Beach
Gone Too Soon (MJ) 

I think in a way we always grieve. About our innocence, about loving fiercely, carelessly and about losing people we love dearly too early to death.

I accept that many things in life are a mystery and maybe there is peace in accepting things as there are. We  can have lengthy theological discussions about God, his existence or even question the “higher power” and have endless debates on why good people need to suffer and the evil one’s get away with murder. Do people who die young or in bizarre accidents or illnesses didn’t deserve to live longer? Do people who live long lives have some unfinished business from the past? Karma? Are things “meant to be”?

Maybe some of us are destined to live longer as our soul still needs to evolve more, learn more lessons, be it through challenging family or work situations….maybe people who die young were evolved souls …maybe they taught us quickly or left us in a space which forced our soul growth or evolvement. Maybe we would have never been ready if these people had not touched our lives or transformed us in some way.  This is very likely.

When people experience a near death experience, it makes them look at life with a totally different perspective. They tend to do a sifting of what’s important and what’s not and start focussing on doing things they love. It’s not strange to find people post this experience to give up their high flying careers and pursue a path of pure happiness. I call it the “soul walk” Cliched as it may be, the realisation that there is a price to pay for each extra buck that is earned and what we are losing along the way cannot be replaced again, can be a very humbling experience. So, in a  way, near death or traumatic experiences are good in a twisted way. They set us free.  They remove the fear of how we are perceived. It becomes easier to shed pretences, not be worried about tags, societal pressures and pursue a life which is in sync with the soul.

For me, losing someone drove me to push myself to connect within myself and listen closely to what my soul wanted. There are times, when I do feel I can’t see the path ahead clearly, but through my darkest and challenging times I have formed the deepest bond with myself. I no longer ignore the voice inside, I know it has held me in good faith – in fact at times, that is all I had.

When we learn to move away from fear, feel free to pursue what we love, connect with people authentically and change the negative experience to self growth, we create a space of happiness.

I don’t think death is a terrible thing…yes, the loss it creates for the people it leaves behind can be devastating and even debilitating . But if, what if we were to consider,  that a soul is just here for an x period of time doing it’s chosen task… whether it was something that it had come to learn or that it had come to share. Maybe,  that soul chose to be in your life for just that short time, so it could enrich you for the rest of yours… Maybe that was the only goal of that soul…

Grieving, I feel should be embraced, accepted and not shamed or shunned. When people near you grieve, rather than feel incredulous on their inability after so many years of still grieving, empathise. We shouldn’t be made to feel bad about a loss that happened years back. Of course, one should not be in a constant state of mourning or not be connected with the present. Acceptance in fact is a state of being in the present, in the now.

We all seek happiness through some form of perfection in our lives and at times the perfection becomes the journey and the goal. The truth is, life doesn’t always give you what you think you want. Life does give you some truly wonderful opportunities and some average one’s….but true happiness is entirely dependent on the experience you are choosing to respond with.


Hold On, Pain Ends : When All Is Not Well…

I get these Tarot cards a lot, where the surrounding influences, energies of a person are fine, but they just don’t feel okay inside.  This is a reminder for us  to pause and find that stillness within and look at the restlessness gently. We tend to be impatient even angry with ourselves when we feel restless and often dismiss this feeling of disquiet as being unreasonable or frustrated with our surroundings or situations. We often forget there’s a subconscious – a higher self we all have which we choose to listen or ignore.

I have found at these times of unrest to focus the energies and thoughts toward gratitude. It may be as simple as sharing a meal with a dear one or cooking something special. I tend to bake a lot both when I am feeling low and when I’m happy. Which means there are phases when I am baking furiously. No one is complaining on that front though but few realize this has become by safety valve. I strongly believe if I cannot find that place or space of happiness then I must contribute it to another’s life. The way misery loves company so does gratitude and hope. And the best way I have found is in being grateful – no matter what goes on – there are reasons enough to be grateful for.

In Tarot we associate the beautiful Star card as the card of hope. start t
The Star card shows a naked woman kneeling at the edge of a small pool. The woman holds two containers of water. She pours the water out to nourish the earth and to continue the cycle of fertility, represented by the lush greenery around her. The other container pours the water onto dry land in five rivulets, representing the five senses. The woman has one foot on the ground, representing her practical abilities and good common sense, and the other foot in the water, representing her intuition and inner resources, and listening to her inner voice. Behind her, shines one large star and seven smaller stars, representing your chakras.

The Star is perhaps the most optimistic card in the tarot. The Star, reminds us of the cyclical nature of struggle in our lives: in between times of contentment , we go through hard times  which help us understand and evolve, and during these struggles we need to hold onto hope  that the good times will once again shine upon us.

Though The Star is a card that looks to the future – it does not speak of any sudden or dramatic change. It speaks of healing and support coming your way.


All of us go through this merry go round and sometimes we are on the ground and sometimes touching the stars. The trick is in remembering that the wheel will turn – you’re not forgotten. Gratitude is  a powerful healer.  Irrespective of what is happening to you – around you – keep reminding yourself of the things you can still do. It maybe a quite walk in a beautiful park, it could be a call from an old friend. This card often pops up to remind us that hope is never far away, no matter how dark the times are in which we find ourselves.

The darker the night is, the brighter the stars above will shine and you need to keep the faith. Reach out to your friends, reach out to people who support you – or just walk alone in gratitude that you have another day to make an effort to work things out.

Beatles: With A Little Help From My Friends

What would you think if I sang out of tune
Would you stand up and walk out on me?
Lend me your ears and I’ll sing you a song
And I’ll try not to sing out of key

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends
Mmm, I get high with a little help from my friends
Mmm, gonna try with a little help from my friends

What do I do when my love is away
Does it worry you to be alone?
How do I feel by the end of the day
Are you sad because you’re on your own?

No, I get by with a little help from my friends
Mmm, get high with a little help from my friends
Mmm, gonna try with a little help from my friends