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3 Signs You Are In A Co Dependent Relationship

Research defines codependency as a behavioural pattern in which you constantly seek approval or validation for your self esteem and identity. It can prevent you from having a healthy relationship and one in which you are constantly seeking the other persons attention and an inability to individually emotionally feel for yourself. Codependent people tend to display almost addictive behaviour which can turn into emotionally destructive behaviours.

It is true, relationships can be a boon or a challenge in our daily lives, depending on the kind of  partners we subconsciously choose or attract. From a soul growth perspective, we are drawn to people who may either activate our dormant triggers allowing us to work in areas of life which need healing or partners who collaborate with us on a soul level and become our cheer leaders while together we do the soul dance.

Codependency is easy to fall into, especially if you have had a childhood deprived of emotional support or any form of neglect in the childhood in which either you were left to fend for yourself or your emotional needs were brushed aside, making you crave for approval or trying to get love from people who could generally be difficult or avoidant of your emotional needs.   The dysfunction is so subtle, that initially in a relationship a partner who is being subjected to it, may feel flattered and wanted. But, once the charm dies the neediness can grate making the pull and push of the relationship incredibly painful to deal with on a daily basis.

  • You feel confined: Since the time you have been in the relationship, you have had to give up on your friends, there are no more “hanging out with the buddies” nights. You feel guilty about spending time with your friends fearing your partner may not like it. It could be that few of your good friends could be of the opposite sex and you may resent you having to give explanations to your partner. Relationships are not prison terms, if you feel restricted chances are it’s not a healthy relationship.
  • You can’t imagine a life without your partner: Yes, it’s cute and romantic doing things together, but if you don’t have a life of your own and depend upon your partner for creating  happiness or a sense of purpose in your life, you can wave your relationship a goodbye.
  • You give and give and then simmer in silent anger:  You mother your partner to a point that they start ignoring your needs. In a healthy relationship, there is give and take and mutual respect. You have to practice taking care of your needs instead of complain or feel let down when your partner refuses to do that for you. Rather than remind your partner or make them count the number of things you do for them, maybe you need to step out of the parenting relationship and take care of your inner self. If something does not feel right, have the courage to say it upfront and not let it fester like an infected wound. Face the fights and arguments and practice standing up for yourself. Either your relationship will evolve and change or you will have clarity in which direction to move.

Being a helpless spectator in your relationship is no fun. The truth is, no one can make us feel better about ourselves. This is self work. Yes, if you manage to find a secure partner who is willing to roll their sleeves and hold your hand while you do the work – it’s wonderful.

Love is being free while being together, its not living in fear or behaving in a scripted way.

 

Friends With Benefits: The Body Has A memory

To begin with, I have no moral high ground on friends being with benefits, but the recent number of times I have been counselling people who are in one, has made me explore this better. On the surface, it’s a fairly harmless arrangement, which tries to ease off the pressure in relationships – or this is what is assumed while beginning one. No complications, no answerability.

While, it’s understandable for the sexual part of a new friend with benefit relationship to fall into, but let’s look at the “friends” bit. We define a friend as someone we trust and who trusts us back, the relationship which is built on shared interests, experiences etc. Unless, it happens organically, an arrangement which is solely intended to be just a FBW from the begining in itself is misleading with a label that does not justify. Friendships take time to cultivate, and require emotional investment. While we may shy away from calling things black and white, thereby creating a sense of ambiguity, we’re soon heading towards a society that is comfortable in living in grey areas. Things that we know for what they are, but our fear of being tolerant or acceptance can be questioned, keeps us safe in the grey shadows.

While, greyness may work and even apply in certain aspects of life, but the lack of surety or living in uncertainty has started eroding into the relationships, causing serious damage.

The confusion that gets experienced in the ambiguity of trusting friends with whom a physical relationship is shared with, which has no direction, could leave you broken and emotionally messed up. We tend to underestimate the power our physical being has over our emotional. Our physical bodies have a memory. Whether you are hugging or kissing, there’s a chemical release which makes us bond or feel connected to that person. The mind could be telling a different story that this is just temporary, but your emotions and your body will tell you another.

Any relationship needs communication and a healthy respect for each other. Moving in and out of relationships which have no boundaries or no direction, tend you leave you exactly there – directionless and breed insecurity. You can be with each other one day and be free to sext or date anyone else tomorrow. There are no rules. Even if it’s at the cost of a benefit, you have to remember you are friends first, people whom you care for and are comfortable with. The worry lies in the fact, that such relationships can seldom turn into healthy ones. One of the partners may soon feel more and potentially feel strung along. They may just physically hold on to the relationship for the sake of it carrying on and start hoping the great sex may lead to a committed relationship.

It is rare, to find two emotionally secure individuals who are happy within themselves and not want more out of the other. They will understand boundaries…but then such individuals will seldom be in FWB situation. So you are back in the greyness and ambiguity which no one wants to define. Either, for the fear of losing what they have, or what potentially it could turn into.

Be brave, be accountable for your relationships. Let them be few. If you can’t bring yourself to commit, choose to be alone. Understand yourself better.. what you can give and what you can’t.

Options will always be there, choose wisely. Invest time and emotions in creating something wonderful. Having one foot out of the door – will always leave you there.

5 Signs Your Relationship Is For Keeps

We often look at love as the elixir that will save us from life. We get romantically involved and at times, more often than not, bad relationships make us wonder whether a certain relationship is “the one”?

Here are signs that the relationship is for keeps.

Respect

Yes, this is right above love, above everything else. Let me put it simply, if there’s basic respect towards each other – your relationship is for keeps. If there are tell tale signs of humiliating each other – even during fights it won’t last. You need to watch how you are treated during a fight. Does your partner respect boundaries or do they throw everything in the heat of the moment and burn the village down in their anger. If you cannot respect each other’s insecurities especially during a fight, you will fuel insecurity and a lack of trust in your relationship.

Friendship

The core of any relationship is being friends with each other and valuing that friendship above all. If you can laugh at yourself,  have the comfort of sharing your deepest self with your partner without feeling threatened, the relationship is for keeps. Whether you spend time doing nothing together or having the comfort of being in the same house yet doing your own thing, whether you are watching TV and your partner is reading a book are signs of a healthy and comfortable relationship.

Acceptance

If you can understand a simple concept, that your partner is different from you and it is not your life mission to change them – half your battle is won. Constructive feedback is great but if your partner is not open to any sort of feedback and is defensive or blows up every time you try and bring a non acceptable behaviour – take a look at your relationship again.  If you cannot wear your heart on your sleeve and are criticised for irrational things it’s a red flag. To put it simply,  a healthy relationship is where the couple accept each other and are not trying to create a mirror image of themselves.

Open Communication

If you able to have difficult conversations, without your partner walking off in a huff in between – you have a winner.  If you don’t have to think twice before saying anything and and feel you are  not walking on a land mine,  the relationship is for keeps. Couples who plan their future together, and work together to make them into a realty,  value each other. Planning a meaningful journey together and be able to have conversations around it are signs of healthy teamwork.

Trust

“Trust is a choice to be available, vulnerable and transparent in a relationship, because the person you’re trusting has proven worthy of your partnership through consistency in their honesty, integrity and dependability.”
Trust is much more than an instinct or a gut feel, people often confuse love and forgiveness with trust, while these can be given freely,  trust needs to be earned on merit alone. Relationships which have a consistent pattern, where the partners show up for each other and are consistent will weather many storms.

How Needy Are You?

“Don’t be needy, you will ruin your relationship” and “I can’t handle her neediness” or “needy people need to see a shrink”,  how often have we heard this from our friends, read on different blogs, contradicting theories on being needy.

In another perspective, people fear that if they respond to their partners’ emotional needs, then their partners will become more dependent and keep wanting more. To avoid this fear, they push  their partners away.

There is research showing just the opposite—that if a partner is responsive to dependency needs, the partner functions more autonomously likely because they feel more secure.  As human beings, we are wired to depend on one another. As humans, we like connecting with other people whether to listen or to be heard. Being on our own has the possibility of hampering our emotional growth.  As someone wise said, “You can’t be human all by yourself.”

Wanting to connect and attached is often confused with a person who is emotionally dependent and cannot think or feel for themselves. The shaming which gets done on a regular basis as simple as saying, “why don’t you get your sh** together”,  is used  conversationally, not realising the damage of insecurity it increases. There is no shame in needing your partner or loved one to be there for you in a relationship. If your partner feels awkward about your vulnerability or shames your need to be loved wholly, accepting as you are without pretences, you might want to take another look at your relationship.

The truth is, at some point or the other, we have all dealt with regret, emptiness and  self-hatred in our lives. Whether we accept it or resist, we want to be heard, to be accepted and to be understood.

Accept that you are someone who wants to rely on others, wants to trust, wants to love and be loved as deeply and authentically as possible….which will require you to bare your soul and be vulnerable. Ignore the naysayers who insist,  you have to be a perfect, highly functioning human being before you even consider entering into a relationship.

It’s the biggest myth of all….no one is perfect… ever.

You can rationalise your need for space, for doing your own thing on your own, but, people need loving relationships to thrive.

To my credit, I’ve understood few basic things. I understand that it’s pointless to be needy with people with whom you can’t be yourself…people who are not comfortable accepting who you are. My caustic sense of humour has helped me get by as has been my ability to write. That’s the thing about not dealing with your core – your inner being, you forget to take care of yourself – on what works for you, what makes you happy. You get so focused on the other persons needs that you forget you have any needs to begin with.

Sadly, all this does is, develop relationships which are fine on the surface, but if you were to scratch them, they fall apart. The fear to hide your true self, behind the easy, fun to get along with, low key intensity – works for everybody. So, you learn not to dive in too deep in relationships, skirt around the boundaries and emotions. After all, who wants a intense, complex person on their hands? The fear of letting out your neediness and the frustration which by now could have converted to anger is repressed constantly. Don’t let it out, stay cool, stay easy…that’s what people can deal with. Right?

What if I were to tell you, there are people who are willing to roll up their sleeves and work with you on whatever it is that you need? Whether it was fear of abandonment, love – whatever you needed as a child or in during a bad relationship and didn’t receive.

Practice being real, with those few. Even if you feel stupid, incapable of a deep relationship (could be childhood neglect or result of bad relationships) have the courage to open yourself up – bit by bit. People who can see through your  bravado, bluster, and pain will hold you close.

Always remember, all you need is compassion and someone who can appreciate you for you are. You are just asking to be seen, heard, validated. And not just general appreciation. Specific appreciation helps, maybe your ability to write beautifully, your wit. Most importantly, your partners ability to reassure you on a regular basis that you will not be abandoned and the fact that love will stay.

No one enjoys or wants to be ‘needy. To deny a need is to deny a fact. By pure definition, it’s an absolute requirement. Need, not ‘want.’ I have never heard people say, ‘you’re want-y.’ Whether we accept it or not, we all have needs, which have to be acknowledged and it helps to know what they are.

Let’s not shame, scoff or worse ignore the loneliness and brokenness. Let’s accept and embrace the knowledge that we are capable of feeling isolated. Let not fear of loss of a relationship stop us to share our  stories and ourselves.

Change, And Welcome The New You

The warped concept of how love or certain relationships should often hinders us to experience the same in an authentic way. Often fear is the root of this. Fear of losing people we love, fear of not having “for ever after”, fear of not having the same priority/importance in others lives.  You felt a degree of apprehension, even fear, sometimes accompanied by unrelenting anxiety. It is precisely these strong emotional reactions that can act as a catalyst to increase motivation and commitment.

Though we will often hear ourselves say, “change is inevitable, I love change” – the truth is when our relationships start changing – whether due to distance, business of daily life or at times simply growing apart is something that makes us question our own worthiness. We insist on feeling what we felt like when we were together in high school or on how we used to feel earlier. We try and seek the old comfort, the old trust, the easy camaraderie that we shared. Growth is all about change. And change is good and inevitable. And though change arguably is painful it is often necessary – for everyone involved.

Holding on to how things were, how they felt is maybe, a bit unfair and even unrealistic.

It is our nature to change and grow.  As we experience anything we naturally undergo a change.  We are never the same after any experience we have.  Well, on one level of our beings.  There is another level but that has nothing to do with this question.

Relationships provide constant experiencing on many levels.  Often, we enter into a relationship out of Karmic obligation or in order to learn something about ourselves that this particular relationship can activate.  Some enter relationships out of Karmic obligation to bring children into the world.  Then, it dissipates.

As we change, one or both partners may shift  out of the energetic structure that created the original magnetic attraction forming the relationship.  This means, either it is time to move on, or the two people make a choice to try and work it out.  It will or will not be successful, depending on whether the relationship is still serving each person as a growth tool.

Two people who can move through their changes, challenges and trouble spots are those who are in a relationship effecting them on deeper levels.  They are still meant to be together as Karma can also be positive.  They have learned how to be in a relationship and can experience deeper levels of love, respect and companionship.  This is a reflection of growth and refinement on each of their parts.

20140404_084204Relationships exist to change people.  We have a strange perception of them in this world.  Nothing is more powerful than something invoking the attention and devotion of the heart.

That is why relationships are so powerful in their effect upon us, and why they are such potent teachers.

Allow change to happen. Let the new you emerge – which is more stranger  and wiser than the one you are leaving behind.

When Your Past Hurts Your Today

“I can’t get over his past”, she said petulantly.

I looked at the aging,  pretty face of the late thirty something sitting across me. We had been chatting for an hour now. This was her second marriage, no children from the first and the man she was marrying was everything she had desired her partner to be. Doting, loving, financially successful.

The only hitch being he had a past. Which she couldn’t get over. So did she, but in her mind it didn’t exist. The conversation reeked of feeling inferior and a lack of  self worth was glaringly visible. We had consulted the Tarot and everything had pointed towards an inner change. Change of the mind and of the attitude. There was nothing in her environment that suggested otherwise. Constantly living in the victim mode is demeaning not only to yourself but to the person you share your life with. Being the victim feels good, it’s like being on the winning team of you against the world. But guess what? The world largely doesn’t care.

The obsession of living in the past hurt or of assumed hurt is a sure poison that will wreck many a relationship.

We had pulled the Hanged Man as a core of the reading.

hanged manHanged Man In Tarot

A man is upside down. His right ankle is tied to a tree branch and his torso spans the length of the trunk. He is awake, and alertly stares at the viewer. His left leg is bent at the knee, crossed behind his straightened and bound right leg. His hands are not visible and are behind his waist. Most interestingly, he has a halo like those seen in medieval paintings of saints and his long blonde hair stretches downward, obscuring the top of his spiritual crown.

The Hanged Man has put himself in this position and there is no way he can win. And yet, that halo lets us know that he may be about to claim a sizable victory. He was not attacked, nor forced to be where he is, nothing is disheveled besides his hair hanging down due to simple gravity. With his hidden hands, he is not letting us see his manipulation of the situation. His bent leg indicates that he is getting quite comfortable being helpless. The Hanged Man represented this person in her reading, she was  being advised by the Tarot deck to surrender, to change course or to let the universe solve a situation without your input.

The Hanged Man combined with the Devil card speaks about obsessions, addictions which we are consciously unwilling to let go off.

At times if we can welcome abundance into our lives, to take an approach of abundance towards the Universe rather than lack, and to try, even in moments of difficulty and feeling blocked, to cultivate a gracious attitude of counting our blessings and taking full advantage of enjoying the abundance that already surrounds us. Sometimes appreciating what we have rather than focusing on what we don’t have can create the conditions we need to emerge from a stagnant period with renewed energy.

 

 

Top 7 Things NOT To Say To An Aquarius

aqua 2Aquarius is the 11th Sign of the Zodiac (also known as the Water Bearer), which though is known for it’s eccentricity and quirkiness, tends to be very sensitive and can easily get hurt by criticism. They enjoy the company of people who can mentally stimulate them. The ruling planets for Aquarius are Uranus and Saturn. Uranus is the planet of freedom and revolutionary vision, the urge for change and the ability to visualize new possibilities. Uranus rules Aquarius, and is also associated with mental studies, electricity and astrology.

1.    Call Them Aloof or Cold: Aquarius like the Pisces live in two worlds – the only difference is their razor sharp intellect. There’s very little that escapes the water bearer.  They can come across as detached and aloof but do know that they always have one foot firmly planted on the ground. Don’t get fooled by your Aquarians faraway look, chances are they can hear you but don’t are just in their anti social mode. Give them some space, they’ll reach out to you.

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2.  Stupid!!: Aquarians pride themselves on their brains. You’ll lose a Aquarian friend faster if you don’t respect their mental prowess. Children of the water-bearer are known for their love of personal space, independence, general weird humor, and quirkiness. An air sign, they are intellectual and witty having been gifted with an analyti

cal mind. Always living in the future, they are ahead of their time and may come off as a bit strange to others.

3      Rubbish Their Ideas: Being ruled by Uranus the wild boy of Astrology is no mean feat. Ura

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nus being the strangest and the most electrifying planet in the universe. Uranus is often associated with brilliance – even if it is temporary. Aquarians are known for their revolutionary ideas and fearless belief in radical ideas. They firmly believe in keeping the dreams alive, whether they succeed or not.

4      Question Their Knowledge: Charles Darwin, Mozart, Abraham Lincoln,  Yoko Ono are all Aquarians as is Oprah Winfrey. Aquarians hate being told “you don’t know” as they know everything – or they firmly believe that they do. It’s an inherent characteristic of theirs. You’ll seldom hear an Aquarius say “I don’t know” – they are more likely to say “you don’t know me”

5.  Criticize Them : Brace yourselves if you have an Aquarian spouse or child. These water bearer comes with an acid tongue. Though they will vehemently – but it’s true. The important thing to keep in mind is what have to done to earn their ire? An Aquarius will really need to have their buttons pressed or be betrayed before they lash out on you.  Though some do it for out of sheer boredom as well!aqua travel

5      Hate Travel: The moment you say this to the Airy friend he’s already lost interest in you. Aquarians love a good adventure. Since the get bored fast a change of scenario always perks them up and clears their head. They enjoy meeting new people, experiencing different cultures, cuisines . They are very much a explorer at heart.

7  Be Petty: Aquarians hate pettiness in anyone.  This is one zodiac that truly believes in “live and let live” Be careful not to not nit – pick or be tight fisted around them – they will lose all respect for you – worse they will refuse to be associated with you. Aquarians are the humanitarian sign – you can be sure to find them in protest rallies and animal shelters.

 

Forever Friends…..

So no one told you life was gonna be this way

Your job’s a joke, you’re broke, your love life’s D.O.A.

It’s like you’re always stuck in second gear

When it hasn’t been your day, your week, your month, or even your year, but

 I’ll be there for you, (When the rain starts to pour)

I’ll be there for you, (Like I’ve been there before)

I’ll be there for you, (‘Cause you’re there for me too)  (The Rembrandt) 

I had thought – nah assumed we would be friends forever…best friends…Regular friends would come and go ..but you and I will always be there….have each other’s back…we have had each other’s back… At times I thought you knew me like no one did…you stood up for me when I couldn’t stand up for myself…you were the friend who was to stay forever the way you were.

Then we grew up…but we still held on…now we met for an occasional holiday..a work trip…a night out and we comforted ourselves that we were still the same…Some more time went by…we changed cities…we spoke less…we got busier…life started happening to us. Now we spoke once in three months…we made more friends…friends who were near us…our families, children took priority like they should perhaps…and we went along…got lost in the circus of lunches, dinners…the entire facade …When the words started failing we repeated our stories to our kids….how we were inseparable…how we knew each other’s every little secret… only now we didn’t say anything to each other…

Many times I tried to slow down the merry-go-round and tell you – I need to talk to you like I can’t talk to anyone else..coz you get me…you will understand but I just watched the merry go round spin round and round thinking, how busy were or at least you would know what I was going through or you just might ask…and I waited…I depended on the telepathic connect you and I always shared..but months of silence had dulled the connection. We carried on in silence you and I.…

You have not gone anyway and neither have I – we are still a phone call – a flight away but suddenly now, the void between us seems huge ….I am still not willing to let go of the thin threads that hold us…Every now and then, I try to quieten the panic that rises in me…not this friendship….I always assumed as we grew older, we would be more courageous, braver ….but why do I see you hiding behind the niceness…carefully wrapped …I see you carefully jumping over the uncomfortable topics.… hesitate over the not so nice stuff….and wonder when did caution get in our friendship…..when did you start averting your eyes….

Out of all the different readings that I do, more often than not I see the Three of Cups reversed come up in friendship readings when things have gone a bit out of whack. The Three of cups when reversed in Tarot means broken friendships, jealousy, expectations that do not come true, infidelity, depression, not listening to your feelings.  Often it is a reflection that you, the querent, are that third person and may be involved in an affair or dealing with an unfaithful partner. But in friendships it depicts a loss of a friendship, heart break due to friends. When this card appears in a reading, look to the other cards for more detail on the nature of the relationship as well. However, if this card appears in a reading regarding love/relationships it can indicate infidelity, lust, extra marital relationships or the end of a relationship.

3 of cups reversed can sometimes indicate that good fortune is around or positivity is around the corner but you cannot see it. If the reading is career related, it can show that a new partnership may not work out well, or that you are giving too much to a situation or asking too much from it.

 

2015: The Year Of Growth

Shame. The feeling of being lesser, guilt of not doing better. One view of difference between shame and embarrassment says that shame does not necessarily involve public humiliation while embarrassment does; that is, one can feel shame for an act known only to oneself but in order to be embarrassed one’s actions must be revealed to others. Judging yourself through the eyes of others, constantly doubting yourself are self defeating habits which form a vicious pattern over time. Feeling crippled in situations, relationships are all signs of self doubt.

At work, one often hears managers dealing with their teams, ” you’re incapable of completing the smallest project; we’ll give it to another manager to complete it.” In personal relationships, ” if you loved me, or understood me – you would not be like this.” With our children,” why can’t you perform better, get better grades, be better behaved etc. make us proud.” Shaming causes life long scars irrespective of the age we are at. It cripples people to move ahead.

I am so tired of how hard we are on ourselves. Not attractive enough, not smart enough, not cool enough, not purpose-full enough, not spiritual enough, not flexible enough, not creative enough, not rich enough, not happy enough, not healthy enough, not sexy enough, not wise enough. It’s like a collective shame-fest that begins when we are born and continues until we are dead. Billions of us walking around convinced we are not something enough. Methinks we are missing the point. Just being alive on this mad planet demands that we are enough. That we are here means we are enough. There is no value in hiding our value under a mountain of shame. We have so many gifts inside, a treasure trove of wonder just waiting to be lived. This life is a hero’s journey.

Anyone who sticks it out and gives it their best shot is heroic, in my eyes. What we call normal is so often extraordinary. Just overcoming the weight of the world, and making a genuine effort to identify and honor our true-path is profound. Without self-love, no external achievement or internal transformation means much of anything. I am finding that the greatest relief comes from accepting that I cannot do it all in one lifetime.

 

What if this year, we each took a vow to be an enabler?  To have the patience to make someone understand what is wrong and how it could be corrected. Give yourself this year – your time, your patience – add value to other’s lives.

 

Scorpio & The Tarot card of Death

As November begins reminding me of another year nearing completion, I often give this this month a “over my shoulder ” look. It’s a time to reflect, look at the months gone by – do my life math as I like to call it. 🙂
On October 23, the Sun began its month-long journey through Scorpio, which is assigned to the death card of the tarot. Mars (Ares) is the Roman god of war, therefore astrology takes it as a symbol for aggression, animosity, brutality and a strong will. In standard astrology Mars is the ruler of Aries and Scorpio. Mars, is also considered the god of war, symbolized lightning, a favorite weapon of Zeus (Jupiter), king of the Olympian gods.
Whereas in ancient Mesopotamia Mars was equated with Nergal, the sinister god of the underworld, of death, destruction and other less delightful things. A war god was he but more the darker side of a war, when evil enemies raided the lands. On the other hand, he was also seen as the Judge of Souls and the Lord of Justice, ruler of the limits of the created world.

The sign Scorpio belongs to the element water, one of the four elements described by the Greek philosopher Empedocles. The tarot’s watery suit of cups depicts typical scenes from human emotional life.

In Tarot Death card shows Death himself riding on a white horse, holding a black and white flag. Death is portrayed as a skeleton as the skeletal bones are the part of the body that survives death. The armor he is wearing indicates that he is invincible. The horse that Death rides is white, the colour of purity. Death is therefore the ultimate purifier. All things are reborn fresh, new and pure. Because Death is the ultimate uncontrollable force, its association with 13 is understandable in that light.

The scorpion’s sting is just as sudden and painful as being struck by lightning. So, while your Scorpion friend will be very emotional but should you rub him/her the wrong way – you will be made to pay the price. This is one sign that rarely forgets slights/hurts. On the other hand, they will always remember a kind gesture forever and repay it. Any kind selfless gesture done to a Scorpio will gain trust and respect which is extremely important to them in any relationship, either romantic or not.
The best advice is to be honest with a Scorpio friend and in return, you will gain an amazing friend you will never forget and who will be loyal to you and never make false promises. Their truthful and shocking sense of humor is different than that of any other zodiac sign and the Scorpio makes an amazing, powerful interesting friend that can be trusted.

Through history and various cultures the Scorpio sign has also been represented by a variety of symbols, including the eagle, the serpent, the lizard, the phoenix, and even the dove.