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July Full Moon In Capricorn : Power Struggles & Transformation

July full moon in Capricorn will highlights power struggles in relationships. Like the cardinal cross tussel, you can expect different areas of your life at polarities with each other. The time you spend at work versus the time you spend at home. Your heart versus your head. Try and keep your ego in check. Over analysing situations, working yourself up to an emotional mess are to watch out for. Like all full moon’s this moon too, is a a powerhouse of building up on inner tensions which would demand a release.
Focus on channelising your energy for changing challenging situations in your life that may have formed a pattern. Waiting for the “right” time to change could be the biggest mistake you could be convincing yourself of. Use your inner strength to transform pain bodies in your life.

Depending on the placement of your chart where the full moon will be highlighting the specific area of your life, resist the urge to control the outcome of a certain situation.

In your relationships, if there has been disharmony or constant conflict, then maybe it’s a time to look at your own conditioning closely. Try not to hang on to people from the past or your previous relationships either with a sense of regret or guilt. Rather than be overwhelmed with a sense of hopelessness, allow awareness to come in and let balance prevail. Some of you may feel manipulated, controlled or find people close to you guilt tripping and blaming you for it. Use this time to surround yourself with positive influences, nurture yourself, take time to meditate.

Since the July full moon is in Capricorn, which is only a degree away from Pluto,the planet of unearthing deeper feelings and intensity and often transforms only through destruction and renewal. This is as powerful as a full moon can get. Emotions are already high at a full moon but now they become all-powerful, all-consuming.

Try not to be come obsessed with how you are feeling. However, some of you may have powerful dreams – keep a journal at hand. Your intuitions could be right but your judgment could be impaired.

Change is imperative, whether you seek it or it’s forced upon you. The goal is to transform your patterns and not be resistant.

Allow your soul to grow so you may lead a better, aware life.

Friends With Benefits: The Body Has A memory

To begin with, I have no moral high ground on friends being with benefits, but the recent number of times I have been counselling people who are in one, has made me explore this better. On the surface, it’s a fairly harmless arrangement, which tries to ease off the pressure in relationships – or this is what is assumed while beginning one. No complications, no answerability.

While, it’s understandable for the sexual part of a new friend with benefit relationship to fall into, but let’s look at the “friends” bit. We define a friend as someone we trust and who trusts us back, the relationship which is built on shared interests, experiences etc. Unless, it happens organically, an arrangement which is solely intended to be just a FBW from the begining in itself is misleading with a label that does not justify. Friendships take time to cultivate, and require emotional investment. While we may shy away from calling things black and white, thereby creating a sense of ambiguity, we’re soon heading towards a society that is comfortable in living in grey areas. Things that we know for what they are, but our fear of being tolerant or acceptance can be questioned, keeps us safe in the grey shadows.

While, greyness may work and even apply in certain aspects of life, but the lack of surety or living in uncertainty has started eroding into the relationships, causing serious damage.

The confusion that gets experienced in the ambiguity of trusting friends with whom a physical relationship is shared with, which has no direction, could leave you broken and emotionally messed up. We tend to underestimate the power our physical being has over our emotional. Our physical bodies have a memory. Whether you are hugging or kissing, there’s a chemical release which makes us bond or feel connected to that person. The mind could be telling a different story that this is just temporary, but your emotions and your body will tell you another.

Any relationship needs communication and a healthy respect for each other. Moving in and out of relationships which have no boundaries or no direction, tend you leave you exactly there – directionless and breed insecurity. You can be with each other one day and be free to sext or date anyone else tomorrow. There are no rules. Even if it’s at the cost of a benefit, you have to remember you are friends first, people whom you care for and are comfortable with. The worry lies in the fact, that such relationships can seldom turn into healthy ones. One of the partners may soon feel more and potentially feel strung along. They may just physically hold on to the relationship for the sake of it carrying on and start hoping the great sex may lead to a committed relationship.

It is rare, to find two emotionally secure individuals who are happy within themselves and not want more out of the other. They will understand boundaries…but then such individuals will seldom be in FWB situation. So you are back in the greyness and ambiguity which no one wants to define. Either, for the fear of losing what they have, or what potentially it could turn into.

Be brave, be accountable for your relationships. Let them be few. If you can’t bring yourself to commit, choose to be alone. Understand yourself better.. what you can give and what you can’t.

Options will always be there, choose wisely. Invest time and emotions in creating something wonderful. Having one foot out of the door – will always leave you there.

3 Ways To Untangle Your Life

Have Faith In The Process:

We all go through painful situations in life that can make us feel stuck. The situation may feel like an unending tunnel without any light at the end. Times such as these you need to hold on to the faith of it being a process of sifting before clarity emerges. Not accepting what’s happening and feeling a sense of futility will not make it go away. Remember to love yourself during this process, accept and embrace for what’s happening. Self hatred and guilt ridden thoughts have to be kept at bay consciously, by reminding yourself, you did what you could in the situation. (provided you have)

Know that it’s temporary:

Unfortunately, happiness tends to make time fly, while sadness and challenging times seem to drag. While going through tough times, resist the urge to be drawn in others drama or negativity. If your relationship is difficult, resist the urge to engage in petty discussions and focus on how you are feeling. Only being true to your emotions can give you clarity on where to move ahead in your relationship.

Set a goal:

Whether it is to write a book, change your job or get fit – identify it and then stick to it like your life depends on it. Setting goals can be a constructive practice. There is enough and more research done on the effects on the positives of goal setting to maintain a emotional happier and healthier life. Being happy takes requires discipline and hard work, and goal setting is one part of the equation. Whether the goal is short-term, you need to define specific and actionable steps that you can take in order to reach your goals.

Try and ensure your goals are difficult enough to motivate you and hold your interest but not so laborious that you realistically have no chance of achieving them.

Venus Retrograde & How It Will Effect You (6th March – 15th April)

“We are born at a given moment in a given place and like vintage years of wine we have the qualities of the year and of the season in which we are born.” – Carl Jung

From MARCH 6 through APRIL 15 2017,  planet Venus will be retrograde. The signs which are most sensitive to a Venus retrograde are Taurus & Libra.  The retrograde motion of an inner planet is an apparent phenomenon as viewed from earth in which Venus appears to retrace its steps, hence giving a sense of moving backwards. Every 1 ½ years, Venus moves approximately 29 degrees ahead of the Sun.

Lessons in relationships, our values, how we value the people in our life will all be under review. With existing relationships, a Venus retrograde you will become acutely aware of how your partner treats you, values you/not and how they demonstrate their love. If you have heard people complain during a Mercury Retrograde that they lost their data or texted the wrong person, during Venus Retrograde watch out for lot of drama in your love life. Try not to purchase something exorbitant, you will sure to suffer from the buyers remorse.

Use the retrograde to evaluate rather than react or act. Yes, there are possibilities, you could become acutely aware of existing problems in your love life or unresolved issues. Venus retrograde is a good time to re-assess and re-examine our relationship values. What are the kind of people we attract in our lives? Are we constantly attracting people who put us down, mock us or are we drawing supportive and nurturing partners. There’s a strong possibility of old lovers to resurface. For some, it may become necessary to heal old wounds and put to rest old issues.

It’s natural to experience challenges in any romantic relationship, but if you have a deep bond and understanding Venus retrograde won’t cause any damage. If things have been intolerable and you have felt taken for granted or constantly misunderstood, these things if unresolved can only cause further damage to a relationship.The good, strong one’s will stand. The retrograde motion can alter our perspective, making us to misunderstand signals/situation. While Venus retrograde doesn’t imply deceit but rather a distorted version of truth regarding maybe a person we thought was the person of our dreams.

Venus is also all about money and how do we attract and value money.

Maybe you need to re-budget, re-plan your money. Maybe you need to look at your finances and update your books. Try not to invest in a luxurious house/dress or go in for a cosmetic makeover during a Venus retrograde. It’s a time to close loose ends financially, repay old debts.

During a Venus retrograde, seek a therapist if you have been suffering from emotional blockages. Revisit old issues and sort them. Revisit your old memories with your partner, how you met, where you went and how it all started. Recreate and rekindle the love flame which could be burning at a low.

More importantly, remember, it’s a phase. It has come to help you resolve old issues, so you can move on to a stronger, deeper relationship.

 

Change, And Welcome The New You

The warped concept of how love or certain relationships should often hinders us to experience the same in an authentic way. Often fear is the root of this. Fear of losing people we love, fear of not having “for ever after”, fear of not having the same priority/importance in others lives.  You felt a degree of apprehension, even fear, sometimes accompanied by unrelenting anxiety. It is precisely these strong emotional reactions that can act as a catalyst to increase motivation and commitment.

Though we will often hear ourselves say, “change is inevitable, I love change” – the truth is when our relationships start changing – whether due to distance, business of daily life or at times simply growing apart is something that makes us question our own worthiness. We insist on feeling what we felt like when we were together in high school or on how we used to feel earlier. We try and seek the old comfort, the old trust, the easy camaraderie that we shared. Growth is all about change. And change is good and inevitable. And though change arguably is painful it is often necessary – for everyone involved.

Holding on to how things were, how they felt is maybe, a bit unfair and even unrealistic.

It is our nature to change and grow.  As we experience anything we naturally undergo a change.  We are never the same after any experience we have.  Well, on one level of our beings.  There is another level but that has nothing to do with this question.

Relationships provide constant experiencing on many levels.  Often, we enter into a relationship out of Karmic obligation or in order to learn something about ourselves that this particular relationship can activate.  Some enter relationships out of Karmic obligation to bring children into the world.  Then, it dissipates.

As we change, one or both partners may shift  out of the energetic structure that created the original magnetic attraction forming the relationship.  This means, either it is time to move on, or the two people make a choice to try and work it out.  It will or will not be successful, depending on whether the relationship is still serving each person as a growth tool.

Two people who can move through their changes, challenges and trouble spots are those who are in a relationship effecting them on deeper levels.  They are still meant to be together as Karma can also be positive.  They have learned how to be in a relationship and can experience deeper levels of love, respect and companionship.  This is a reflection of growth and refinement on each of their parts.

20140404_084204Relationships exist to change people.  We have a strange perception of them in this world.  Nothing is more powerful than something invoking the attention and devotion of the heart.

That is why relationships are so powerful in their effect upon us, and why they are such potent teachers.

Allow change to happen. Let the new you emerge – which is more stranger  and wiser than the one you are leaving behind.

The 4th House In Astrology & Tarot : Emotional Foundations

The 4th house rules your home, family, and foundation. It can rule your home itself structurally, like the kind of home you like and the place or area you’d like to live, as well as the environment within the home. The 4th is where we go when we collapse. It rules home and family, ancestors and homeland. It provides a literal retreat. The 4th house is on as axis with the 10th house (the exact opposite house). There is an inevitable conflict between the needs of the soul and the demands of public life. From the 4th we’re called to serve society in our 10th house role. This axis is also a very spiritual axis, and the 4th house shows the spiritual foundation upon which you build. Cancer and the Moon rule the 4th house, and this house is an angular house.

The fourth house is also the house of our childhood and our parents childhood and so-on.  It represents the circle of life and size. It’s the house of what makes us into who we are as adults and it’s our past that we like to keep private.  This is where we can find “Skeletons in the closet“. It represents resources used to rear us.

Do you wonder if you will ever find and own your dream home? In tarot, there are several cards which refer to property matters and moving house. These are a few cards based on my experience as a reader.

4 wandsThe four of wands

A happy scene indeed. This bright card foretells that you are about to set down new roots and you will be more than happy in your new home. Good energy and a fabulous neighbours. What more can you ask for? A card connected with celebrations also, it likely to indicate a   house warming party too.

The Empress This card is often associated with pregnancy and even financial abundance. But I find she also pops up in a reading when someone is about to make a move of house and settle down in a lovely location, more often than not close to the countryside, or even  own a house that has a large garden (the Empress is linked to Nature). She does look comfortable too, doesn’t she? So expect to feel this way in your new home. It could be a move that lasts you a life time.

3 pentaclesThree of Pentacles: Three people stand outside of a property, they are deep in discussion.

The discussion could involve changes to the property structure. Work needs to be done. Renovations to be carried out.

Yes, a house move will happen. But expect to spend money on improvements and these may not necessarily be what you are aware of at the point of sale. Make sure your budget allows for unforeseen extras.This card can also indicate future expansion of your living space. Adding extra rooms or extending a room.

 

When Your Past Hurts Your Today

“I can’t get over his past”, she said petulantly.

I looked at the aging,  pretty face of the late thirty something sitting across me. We had been chatting for an hour now. This was her second marriage, no children from the first and the man she was marrying was everything she had desired her partner to be. Doting, loving, financially successful.

The only hitch being he had a past. Which she couldn’t get over. So did she, but in her mind it didn’t exist. The conversation reeked of feeling inferior and a lack of  self worth was glaringly visible. We had consulted the Tarot and everything had pointed towards an inner change. Change of the mind and of the attitude. There was nothing in her environment that suggested otherwise. Constantly living in the victim mode is demeaning not only to yourself but to the person you share your life with. Being the victim feels good, it’s like being on the winning team of you against the world. But guess what? The world largely doesn’t care.

The obsession of living in the past hurt or of assumed hurt is a sure poison that will wreck many a relationship.

We had pulled the Hanged Man as a core of the reading.

hanged manHanged Man In Tarot

A man is upside down. His right ankle is tied to a tree branch and his torso spans the length of the trunk. He is awake, and alertly stares at the viewer. His left leg is bent at the knee, crossed behind his straightened and bound right leg. His hands are not visible and are behind his waist. Most interestingly, he has a halo like those seen in medieval paintings of saints and his long blonde hair stretches downward, obscuring the top of his spiritual crown.

The Hanged Man has put himself in this position and there is no way he can win. And yet, that halo lets us know that he may be about to claim a sizable victory. He was not attacked, nor forced to be where he is, nothing is disheveled besides his hair hanging down due to simple gravity. With his hidden hands, he is not letting us see his manipulation of the situation. His bent leg indicates that he is getting quite comfortable being helpless. The Hanged Man represented this person in her reading, she was  being advised by the Tarot deck to surrender, to change course or to let the universe solve a situation without your input.

The Hanged Man combined with the Devil card speaks about obsessions, addictions which we are consciously unwilling to let go off.

At times if we can welcome abundance into our lives, to take an approach of abundance towards the Universe rather than lack, and to try, even in moments of difficulty and feeling blocked, to cultivate a gracious attitude of counting our blessings and taking full advantage of enjoying the abundance that already surrounds us. Sometimes appreciating what we have rather than focusing on what we don’t have can create the conditions we need to emerge from a stagnant period with renewed energy.

 

 

When Love Begins To Fade….

 

If some research is to be believed,  scientists have discovered that people can have a love that lasts a lifetime. There The researchers had apparently scanned the brains of couples together for 20 years and compared them with results from new lovers. Previous research has suggested that the first stages of romantic love fade within 15 months and after 10 years it has gone completely  against the traditional view of romance — that it drops off sharply in the first decade — but we are sure it’s real,” as per Arthur Aron, a psychologist.

I often see the Sun reversed appear in troubled relationships. Or relationships which are heading towards one. But with a situation which has not yet matured  and is a mere indication, it’s an extremely tricky aspect to read in Tarot for often the love waning can be misread. It could be the monotony in the relationship or even a tiring phase that each relationship experiences over a period of time – which could be getting reflected.

sun reversedIt is tempting to view a reversed card as undesirable. A woman wanted a baby, so she was disheartened by the reversed Empress. Someone else might have viewed the same card differently. Reversed cards are not negative in and of themselves. Everything depends on what you hope to achieve.  A reversed Sun shows this same energy is present, but at a lower level. The vitality is reduced or limited in some way. You may feel lowered pep or enthusiasm.  Yes, your lover still loves you, but it is not in a very strong way. It speaks of a time when things could be ho-hum between you…OR that one of you just does not care where the relationship is headed. Sure, you are with someone, but you are not as happy as you expected.

However, the Sun tarot card is very strong in power. Consequently, in reversed position, it is not always bad. There still is hope – provided conversations happen and clarity prevails.

 

worldreversed Should The World reversed come along with the reversed Sun in a relationship reading, it confirms the bumps and bruises in the relationship. This aspect also accentuates  a certain amount of boredom and disappointment. The feeling can be so tiring that you might simply think that your relationship is going in circle and the road to a happy future looks longer than you have expected.

 

At times we avoid the most important conversations for fear of knowing the truth. So we keep going round and round in circles creating more stagnancy. This aspect also speaks about low self worth.  You feel that you are not good enough for anyone and thus it is better for you to not meet new people.

 

“Our Love Is Fading” – Sheryl Crow

While you’re hesitating Baby, our love is fading

Still you keep me hanging on, while you wait for the right time

Every day turns to nighttime, until one day love is gone

I called you on the phone, seems like you’re never home but I know

It’s not that you don’t care, I think it’s that you’re scared to let go

Don’t have to tell me twice, I’ve made the sacrifice to hold on

I could be out instead, you’re playing with my head and that’s wrong

 

Top 7 Things NOT To Say To An Aquarius

aqua 2Aquarius is the 11th Sign of the Zodiac (also known as the Water Bearer), which though is known for it’s eccentricity and quirkiness, tends to be very sensitive and can easily get hurt by criticism. They enjoy the company of people who can mentally stimulate them. The ruling planets for Aquarius are Uranus and Saturn. Uranus is the planet of freedom and revolutionary vision, the urge for change and the ability to visualize new possibilities. Uranus rules Aquarius, and is also associated with mental studies, electricity and astrology.

1.    Call Them Aloof or Cold: Aquarius like the Pisces live in two worlds – the only difference is their razor sharp intellect. There’s very little that escapes the water bearer.  They can come across as detached and aloof but do know that they always have one foot firmly planted on the ground. Don’t get fooled by your Aquarians faraway look, chances are they can hear you but don’t are just in their anti social mode. Give them some space, they’ll reach out to you.

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2.  Stupid!!: Aquarians pride themselves on their brains. You’ll lose a Aquarian friend faster if you don’t respect their mental prowess. Children of the water-bearer are known for their love of personal space, independence, general weird humor, and quirkiness. An air sign, they are intellectual and witty having been gifted with an analyti

cal mind. Always living in the future, they are ahead of their time and may come off as a bit strange to others.

3      Rubbish Their Ideas: Being ruled by Uranus the wild boy of Astrology is no mean feat. Ura

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nus being the strangest and the most electrifying planet in the universe. Uranus is often associated with brilliance – even if it is temporary. Aquarians are known for their revolutionary ideas and fearless belief in radical ideas. They firmly believe in keeping the dreams alive, whether they succeed or not.

4      Question Their Knowledge: Charles Darwin, Mozart, Abraham Lincoln,  Yoko Ono are all Aquarians as is Oprah Winfrey. Aquarians hate being told “you don’t know” as they know everything – or they firmly believe that they do. It’s an inherent characteristic of theirs. You’ll seldom hear an Aquarius say “I don’t know” – they are more likely to say “you don’t know me”

5.  Criticize Them : Brace yourselves if you have an Aquarian spouse or child. These water bearer comes with an acid tongue. Though they will vehemently – but it’s true. The important thing to keep in mind is what have to done to earn their ire? An Aquarius will really need to have their buttons pressed or be betrayed before they lash out on you.  Though some do it for out of sheer boredom as well!aqua travel

5      Hate Travel: The moment you say this to the Airy friend he’s already lost interest in you. Aquarians love a good adventure. Since the get bored fast a change of scenario always perks them up and clears their head. They enjoy meeting new people, experiencing different cultures, cuisines . They are very much a explorer at heart.

7  Be Petty: Aquarians hate pettiness in anyone.  This is one zodiac that truly believes in “live and let live” Be careful not to not nit – pick or be tight fisted around them – they will lose all respect for you – worse they will refuse to be associated with you. Aquarians are the humanitarian sign – you can be sure to find them in protest rallies and animal shelters.

 

2015: The Year Of Growth

Shame. The feeling of being lesser, guilt of not doing better. One view of difference between shame and embarrassment says that shame does not necessarily involve public humiliation while embarrassment does; that is, one can feel shame for an act known only to oneself but in order to be embarrassed one’s actions must be revealed to others. Judging yourself through the eyes of others, constantly doubting yourself are self defeating habits which form a vicious pattern over time. Feeling crippled in situations, relationships are all signs of self doubt.

At work, one often hears managers dealing with their teams, ” you’re incapable of completing the smallest project; we’ll give it to another manager to complete it.” In personal relationships, ” if you loved me, or understood me – you would not be like this.” With our children,” why can’t you perform better, get better grades, be better behaved etc. make us proud.” Shaming causes life long scars irrespective of the age we are at. It cripples people to move ahead.

I am so tired of how hard we are on ourselves. Not attractive enough, not smart enough, not cool enough, not purpose-full enough, not spiritual enough, not flexible enough, not creative enough, not rich enough, not happy enough, not healthy enough, not sexy enough, not wise enough. It’s like a collective shame-fest that begins when we are born and continues until we are dead. Billions of us walking around convinced we are not something enough. Methinks we are missing the point. Just being alive on this mad planet demands that we are enough. That we are here means we are enough. There is no value in hiding our value under a mountain of shame. We have so many gifts inside, a treasure trove of wonder just waiting to be lived. This life is a hero’s journey.

Anyone who sticks it out and gives it their best shot is heroic, in my eyes. What we call normal is so often extraordinary. Just overcoming the weight of the world, and making a genuine effort to identify and honor our true-path is profound. Without self-love, no external achievement or internal transformation means much of anything. I am finding that the greatest relief comes from accepting that I cannot do it all in one lifetime.

 

What if this year, we each took a vow to be an enabler?  To have the patience to make someone understand what is wrong and how it could be corrected. Give yourself this year – your time, your patience – add value to other’s lives.