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Being Ruled The By Moon: Emotional Balance & Happiness

“She sings as the moon sings:
‘I am I, am I;
The greater grows my light
The further that I fly.’
All creation shivers
With that sweet cry.” –  W. B. Yeats

We often find some people literally wax and wan with the moon eclipses.  Moon, in astrology, is the ruler of zodiac Cancer. It speaks about our subconscious, things that move us and our personal desires. While on the one hand Sun reason represents our deepest personal needs, our basic habits and reactions, and our unconscious.

Where the Sun acts, the Moon reacts. Our sense of security, what anchors us, what moves us can be defined by where the Moon is placed in our charts. People with a strong moon placement come across as over emotional. This is more apparent,  if they are ruled by any of the water signs, Cancer, Scorpio or Pisces.

Rather than fight the tide which Moon brings upon, it’s important to focus on what is the message  of the Moon. Full moon can make you over emotional, especially if you are trying to suppress something that does not feel right. Listen to what your intuition is saying, listen to your body, your gut….what do you feel inside? This does not mean that if you are constantly feeling negative about others you should carry on doing so…maybe you are giving energy to things/people while you should be focussing on yourself.

For some of us, our Moons seem to drive our personalities more than any other planet or mainly Sun. For your peace of mind and happiness, not to indulge the effect of moon in your life beyond a point.

I’ve focused so far on negative emotions, but people often don’t trust their positive emotions, either, feeling that if they get too happy, some negative force is sure to be attracted to their good vibrations and attempt to ruin them. This may be called ” nothing good ever lasts,” “waiting for the other shoe to drop”, or “they’re just waiting for me to let down my guard before they strike.”

 Grant Lewi, in Astrology for the Millions, offered the most evocative description of the Moon, “When you “know what you mean but you can’t say it,” it is your Moon that knows it and your Sun that can’t say it. “Thoughts that do often lie too deep for tears” are the thoughts of your Moon’s nature. The wordless ecstasy, the mute sorrow, the secret dream, the esoteric picture of yourself that you can’t get across to the world, or which the world doesn’t comprehend or value – these are the products of the Moon in your horoscope. When you are misunderstood, it is your Moon nature, expressed imperfectly through the Sun sign, that you feel is betrayed. When you know what you ought to do, but can’t find the right way to do it, it is your Moon that knows and your Sun that refuses to react in harmony. Also, when you “don’t know why I said that,” it was your Moon expressing despite your Sun (if you are innerly satisfied with the involuntary speech), or the Sun expressing against the will of the Moon (if you are displeased with what has slipped out). Things you know without thought – intuitions, hunches, instincts – are the products of the Moon. Modes of expression that you feel are truly your deepest self belong to the Moon: art, letters, creative work of any kind; sometimes love; sometimes business. Whatever you feel is most deeply yourself, whether or not you are able to do anything about it in the outer world, is the product of your Moon and of the sign your Moon occupies at birth.”

What Have You Attracted In Your Life?

An important part of my work are affirmations. I often suggest them towards end of my Tarot readings as exercises to have different perspectives, and watch over our thoughts carefully. Over a period of time, I have realised the misinterpretation towards affirmations. Some roll their eyes dismissively , some do them half heartedly while others simply reject them. Most give up doing the affirmations mid way, for some it just feels like a waste of time. The trick to doing affirmations is to feel them, in your heart, in your mind and in your bones.

I understand, for some after life’s repeated beating, deep dejection can set in. But I also know, that we attract people, situations exactly in spaces of our life where growth is required. This is not to say, that should suffer endlessly on the contrary this is about going against self defeating thoughts which if carried on for a long period of time can physically debilitate you besides turning you negative.

There is no great secret behind the “law of attraction”. We attract what we think or at times people, situations where we need to grow.

You can leave bad situations, abusive relationships and dead relationships. There is no higher good in suffering. The secret lies in fighting against negative conditioning. Be your cheer leader, be your own champion. Don’t let anyone define for you, what you can and can’t do.

You have the power to manifest goodness and love in your life.


Abandonment & Tarot

 abandonment:  əˈbandənm(ə)nt/ noun: the action or fact of abandoning or being abandoned.  “she had a feeling of utter abandonment and loneliness”
Most of our powerful memories are based on how certain experiences we had as a child- the joy or fear of what was or what was not shaped our subconscious. The fear stays like an errant child peeping through the door – emerging his head now and then reminding us not to take risks, to doubt and not to trust.
Love : feeling protected, secure in the knowledge that you will be picked up should you fall, that you are safe, taken care off – constant. Maybe somewhere this love is possible only between a parent and child – the selflessness, the promise.
Relationships that tire over a period of time, not because of anything but sheer laziness to make an effort to keep the relationship going. No spending time together – hurried matter of fact phone calls, brisk instructions are sadly counted as love. A simple, “how are you doing? ” seem to scare the best of us.
It’s too much of investment and effort.
When one person consciously chooses not to be involved in the relationship – it can feel very awkward and it hurts. Not belonging is a terrible feeling, as if you were wearing someone else’s shoes. It can leave a person bewildered on how you stop caring about what you’ve ached over, sweated over for years? You have to confront  painful feelings in order to heal. It’s okay if people you loved, let you down and abandoned you mid way because somewhere you no longer fitted in their scheme of things!
Be fearless. Rather than break – rise. Accept, embrace that people are people – they change.
Don’t get defensive and push people away. Importantly, DON’T blame yourself. It’s a understandable reaction, but an inappropriate one. If others couldn’t love us, or love us in ways that worked, that’s not our fault. Learn to separate yourselves from the behavior of others. And take responsibility for your healing, regardless of the people around you.
Believe in yourself, discover a new passion, live the life that you always dreamed of.


In Tarot, the Eight of Cups 8 of cupsindicates  that it is time to ask yourself what you can do to bring a deeper satisfaction and joy to your life beyond the obvious pursuit of material satisfaction and/or physical enjoyment.

The Eight of Cups also indicates that you are disappointed enough to walk away from everything you have built up so far. It could indicate a disappointment in love or dissatisfaction with material success. It could also indicate that you have over-extended yourself to the point of emotional exhaustion. Even though you have already come so far, you feel that you can no longer go on and your only choice is to walk away from the situation. You feel disappointed with yourself but you know that this is the right thing to do before you completely burn out. You may also be feeling that you are giving too much and not getting nearly enough in exchange.


Eternal Love | Tarot Card Of Lovers

In Memory

It’s rare to find love that does not want to change you, own you or be threatened by you. Love that revels in you being you. Love that is non – judgmental that encourages you to grow. I like to think of this as a soul connect. It’s as though the souls  have known each other from before and when we meet the connect happens.

I have felt this telepathic connect with someone I loved dearly – since I was very young. I just knew that it was him. It’s the kind of relationship that flows gently on it’s own – without any effort.  I have felt this with few friends as well. The telepathic connect – where you understand each other and endless explanations are not required.

I am here for a reason as are you – each one of you. Choice is to turn your grief into a fuel that moves mountains or allow it destroy you. For the truth is, when the emotional debris settles – which it does over a period of time there will be a life that would have to be led.

How you choose to lead it – it up to you. Either with dignity and courage or feeling paralyzed with grief. The thing with grieving is – it never really goes away. You learn to manage the pain. You have to find your reason. What is it that motivates you? Moves you? Search within yourself and you’ll find not just the answers but also the strength to stand.

Learn to walk light, leave the baggage down. It’s a long journey. And the road can get treacherous. Wear your pain easily as you would wear your happiness. Even when you feel it’s killing you – tread gently. Don’t let grief and despair chain you. Don’t be in a hurry to heal and be whole. If you feel broken, so be it – let the gaps get filled with understanding and compassion.

You will be fine, this is my promise. You will listen to music again, dance again celebrate life. Yes, you may have that hole in your gut that refuses to fill – and that’s OK as well. Let it be a reminder that you’re capable of loving wholly and truly as you could.


In Tarot, the sign associated with the Lovers is Gemini. The two figures in the Lovers card are blessed and protected by the angel in the clouds above them. Angels, in general, represent the refinement of earthly desires. This angel, in particular, is Raphael, the angel of Air. One of the associations of Air is communication, necessary for a healthy relationship.

The Lovers represent perfection, harmony and mutual attractiveness. Their trust in one another gives them strength and confidence to overcome the obstacles in life. The bond that the two lovers has created is incredibly strong and is often reflective of a marriage, soul mate connection or very intimate and close relationship.

Eternal Love : Utopia

When your life gets too lonely
It might help to feel me in your heart
I remember you happy
But thought it unfair that we are apart

And it’s gonna be alright
‘Cause everlasting love
Will get us through the night

There’s a new day that’s dawning
It brings with it skies, so blue and clear
I can’t offer you blue skies
I’ve only got love, eternal love
Love, eternal love

When Love Gives Up On You: Tarot Card Of Betrayal

The worst feeling of being in love with someone is not being loved back or not being wanted the way you want them. Not enough that is. And they don’t tell you – they assume you will know -well  eventually you are expected to. They assume on your behalf you won’t bleed as much. Sure, you would feel the pain but you would get over it. So, the charade carries on, the dinners are done and the holidays are taken together and no mention is made of “ever after”

Such relationships are often lonely especially for the one who loves and lives in hope  to be with someone who does not reciprocrate in the same way. You cannot make people love you the way you do – no matter how much you care – they just don’t care back but the good news is,  it’s not end of the world. And after a while, you learn that someone holding your hand was just that, the time spent together was a mere habit, and since there were no promises made – nothing gets broken. Well, nothing on the outside that is. And unknowingly you become party to the crime. You knew there were no promises – so why did you expect? Why did you take all the conversations, sharing of happiness as a sign. And you learn again – that it’s still possible to get your heart broken.

“Don’t beleive in everything people write”,  I was told, and I wondered silently, what is it then that I beleive in? At some point, you realize that you have done too much for someone or something, the only next possible step is to stop. Leave them alone. Walk away. It’s not like you’re giving up and it’s not like you shouldn’t try. It’s just that you’ve to draw the line of determination from desperation.


seven_swordsIn Tarot, The Seven of Swords indicates that you may be tempted to sneak away from a particular situation that is not working for you any more, rather than dealing with it head on. As you do not feel ready to deal with the issues, you are aiming for a solution where you can just escape and not have to worry about it all. Are you trying to run away from commitment, responsibility, hard work or love? You may be procrastinating, letting problems slip and become worse because you do not want to deal with them. Sometimes you just have to face what has to be faced. So, the question is, “Is this realistic?” Will this ‘escape’ really accomplish what you want to and need to accomplish? Will it address the fundamental issues at hand here? The likely answer is no, and it may simply be an easy way out for now.

ten_swordsWhen the 7 of Swords is accompanied by upright 10 of Swords it reconfirms the feeling of betrayal. As such, the Ten of Swords is often associated with feeling the ‘victim’ in a situation. You may feel powerless as something comes to a crashing and sudden end, and you feel as if you are being attacked or backstabbed by someone else.

The Ten of Swords is about letting go and accepting your current circumstances. You no longer resist change but allow it to happen, even if it causes some initial pain and hurt to you. You accept that there must be change in order to facilitate renewal, and you allow it to occur rather than fighting it.


Do I follow my heart or stick to my job?

It is not working out at my work place. I am doing well in the current projects. But, I strongly feel I need to do more. Maybe, study further, go and work in another country. I have been thinking about this for a year now – but I do not know whether I should take this plunge. Is this just a “feeling” that I have or do I explore this seriously?

My client is a successful project leader with a software company. Despite being intelligent and highly qualified he seemed to be running into a dead end at his work place. And the restlessness was effecting his work.

He came recommended through his company’s HR manager with whom I had done a 2 day “employee productivity workshop” and yes – through Tarot as a medium.

The core of his reading was Two of Wands. Wands represent creativity.

Two of Wands basic message is: Work is underway.  Balance between action and passivity.  Potential not fulfilled yet.  Energy, enterprise, passion, with balance.  New venture starting on firm foundation.  Many opportunities but outcomes not clear yet.  Good advice being given and received.

In general, I find the Mars-Aries connection to be the most useful one for the Two of Wands. As the first sign of the zodiac, Aries confers leadership ability. It is also characterized as being impulsive and quick-tempered. In numerology – 2 represents duality, the combing of two 1’s, the concept of self and other.

When The Two of wands appears prominently in the reading with the corresponding cards indicating a similar tone, you need to ask yourself the follo:

Are you feeling in charge?
Is your sense of self-empowerment so thorough that you feel like taking a gamble?
Are there area’s where you are accomplished and are ready to go to the next level?
Do you wish to embark on a new project or enterprise?
How could you take this pioneering spirit and apply it to your life to achieve a new level of success?
Do you believe in yourself and that you are deserving of abundance in your life?

You have already come so far but now you feel it is ready for a change, this time with your long-term future in mind.
You may be considering overseas travel, further education or a major career change at this point in order to expand your learning and development, and to grow your horizons beyond your immediate environment.

With careful planning, and a moderated approach, you will set yourself up for success in the future.

The Twos in Tarot often represent decisions of some sort. In the case of the Two of Wands, you are making a decision between sticking with what you know, or expanding your horizons and taking a risk.

You know that the world has to offer you something ‘bigger’ or more meaningful, yet you are also aware that in order to maximise on this opportunity, you must leave your familiar grounds.

Even though you have already invested a lot into your current circumstances, for you to be able to grow and to maximise your potential, it is imperative that you step out into a new world and explore your options.

It may take some courage to take the first step but this card gives you the confidence of self-knowledge. You know what your goal is, what your creative process is directing for you, and you are confident in its eventual fulfillment.

Go ahead and explore the world.

My New Work Place

Hmmmm So what do you think? I heard a hint of irritation in the voice I was recently reading for. Do you think the new place will work for me? Will I be able to do my work effectively? Will my colleagues appreciate me? How soon will I get promoted? I was reading for a very successful corporate executive who was in the process of serving his notice period and joining another company. He had not left on a very good note and I could sense had not our common friend pushed him for this reading he would not have come. In fact he had (like a lot of corporate first timers) told me on meeting that he didnt know what the hell was he doing here.

Interestingly the cards he pulled out had 8 of pentacles prominently featuring with adjoining similar cards resonating the core of 8 of pentacles.
The Eight of Pentacles is the card of prudence and preparation. A woodworker, seated at his workbench, is carving a series of pentacles. A skilled craftsman, it looks as though he is continually perfecting his skills—and at the same time, he’s managing to produce marketable wares. He displays his work prominently, and he works in full view of customers and passerby. The eight of pentacles Tarot card asks us to raise the bar and consistently enhance our focus on being remarkable.

I also think, somewhere this card questions us what “success” means to us, and how we can incorporate that element of extraordinary elegance in every action we take to our achievements. With this card, one doesnt get the impression that this chap jumped out of bed that morning and went ‘yeah! I’m going to make loads of money or I am super successful!’

It’s a card of perseverence and work, committing yourself to your task and enjoying it and believing in it enough to do a little more every day. Either way, this card shows a labour of love. It says ‘there are no quick fixes’, and reminds me that to achive my goals, commitment, persistence and hard work are required.”

When this card shows up as an indication of a fortune related to your job or career, this probably means that you have just switched into a new career, or that you were dealt some job esponsibilities that you were previously unfamiliar with. This does not mean that you are going to fail. On the contrary, it shows that your spirit in pioneering the new job or responsibilities is commendable. You will do the best you can to see that the job is done even if you do not fully understand it. This marks a great worker and any company would be happy to have you working for them.

I subscribe to Mike Dooley’s posts which I find very comforting. Reading Mike’s posts reminds me that I am someone who benefits from a little routine in my life. Not too much of course, but to accomplish something simple like this each day would probably do me good. I’m all to familiar with the scenario where we say ‘it’s a whole new me! I’m gonna do xxx every day from now on!’ and three days later it’s like ‘ummm….’

But this isn’t about flashy resolutions or the inevitable guilt-trips – it’s about channelling a little of that 8 of Pentacles thing, and applying a little more of myself each day to keep my Tarot learning on a roll. I want to have the self dicipline and commitment to find time each day to sit down, draw a card, and spend a moment really focusing on this one thing.

Also I have realised that when I find something to be grateful for EVERY day….it makes everything around me so much more beautiful and awesome.

And yes, my skeptical friend has joined his new work place and besides the hard work he is putting in – he is learning to be appreciative each day.

Will I get my dream job? Will my ex come back to me?

A friend of mine came to me the other day and wanted a reading. He is thinking about a new business venture and he is actively gathering information and networking at a high speed. He told me he felt that this venture was doomed or maybe it was not a good time to start as he feels he is running into a road block after road block. He also told me that this new beginning was something he has always wanted to do. We did a one card reading asking, ‘What energy is surrounding this new business venture”? I laughed when the card that was drawn was The Fool. 🙂

Beginnings/Innocence/Blind Faith/Spontaneity

Road blocks he may be encountering are just normal ‘red tape’. He must continue on with this new phase in his life believing ‘the powers that be’.

Writing a Question

People often consult me when they are facing challenging phase in their lives. They want an understanding why it is happening and what one could do about it.
The best kind of tarot reading for this situation is the Question Reading. You write a question about your problem, and you receive your answer by interpreting the cards. The question helps you relate the guidance you receive to your situation in a way that makes sense.

In this article I will try to explain simply how one can ask/seek best.

The first step is to review the current scenario thoroughly. Think about all the people involved, directly or indirectly. Go over your options for the future. Let your mind wander freely. You want to look at your problem without judging or censoring any part. Once you have finished your review, you can write your question. Here are some suggestions:

Accept Responsibility
Write your tarot question to show that you accept responsibility for your situation. Consider these two questions:

Should I apply for a divorce or stay in my dead marriage?
What do I need to know to decide on the best options to handle my marriage?

In the first question, the writer gives up her responsibility for making a decision. She wants the cards to tell her what to do. In the second question, she is simply asking the cards to give her more information. She knows the decision lies with her.

It’s tempting to write the first kind of question. We all seek the certainty that we’re making good choices, but the tarot can’t make our decisions for us.

Avoid questions that deflect responsibility, such as:
Questions to be answered “Yes” or “No” Will I get the job at the bank? Can I lose weight this month?
Am I ready to retire? 

Questions beginning with “Should…”
Should I let my boss be rude with me? 
Should I go out with xyz? 
Should I apply to more than one university? 

Questions asking only about time When will xyz ask me to marry him?
How long will it take to find a new car?
When will I get my promotion? 

Instead, begin your questions with phrases such as these:

Can you give me insight into …
What do I need to understand about …
What is the meaning of …
What is the lesson or purpose of …
What are the circumstances underlying …
How can I improve my chances of …
How might I …

Ace of Wands & Moving On

Gotta find your inner strength
If you can’t then just throw life away
Gotta learn to rely on you
Beauty, strength, and wisdom, too
You’re beautiful inside and out
Lead a great life without a doubt
Don’t need a anyone to make things fair
‘Cuz more than likely they won’t be there
Listen, you gotta know it’s true
In the end all you’ve got is you

Aces always represent a new awakening. The Ace of Wands represents beginning within the suit of wands. Wands have everything to do with fire, passion, excitement and energy. If any ace shows up in a reading for you, get ready for something new. I also firmly believe, if you’ve received an ace, you MUST listen to your intuition regarding new projects, ideas and situations. In fact, when you receive an ace, mentally, open yourself up and get ready for the new experiences coming your way.

The Ace of Wands is a sign to just ‘go for it’. This highly action-oriented card gives a sense of feeling incredibly inspired and enthusiastic about pursuing a new idea or project that you have in mind. It denotes that you are all revved up and raring to go. Even if you like to have everything planned out before you begin down a certain path, the Ace of Wands is encouraging you to listen to your instincts and follow your gut. If it feels like a good idea, it probably is.

So, start with a few basic actions to get things underway, and then continue to grow and develop your ideas through more complex actions later on. The important thing is that you act now, rather than spending more time planning or researching.

The Ace of Wands is a time where you could feel inspired or motivated from within. It can be an “a – ha” moment in your life – where there’s clarity on which direction to proceed.

It could be a time, wherein your inner creativity gets reflected outside and you decide to take concrete steps to implement it.

However, it’s good to  keep at the back of your mind, that with the Ace of Wands, or for that matter with any Ace, is that it is but a seed that is yet to germinate into something more solid or concrete. It’s as though an opportunity gets presented to you and how you exploit if to the fullest is entirely unto you.

There can be a sense of restlessness or uncertainty with the energy of Ace of Wants, on which direction move ahead. Clarity is may elude you despite having the energy and passion. Explore more before you plunge with the draft itself. Take time to flesh out the details before you act out.

I Don’t Want To Be Alone – No More

I walk a lonely road
The only one that I have ever known
Don’t know where it goes
But it’s only me, I walk alone
My shadow’s the only one that walks beside me
My shallow heart’s the only thing that’s beating
Sometimes I wish someone out there will find me
’til then I walk alone (“Boulevard Of Broken Dreams”)

I don’t want to be alone. Not now at least – she said softly. I looked at the lovely woman facing me. A very successful executive in media. Well! I just turned 33 and it’s freaking me out now. I mean the men are there, sure – but not for marriage. It’s fun hanging out with them but I don’t think I can see myself with any one of them on a permanent basis. And why is that? I asked her gently. She laughed wryly. Well, for one, most of the friends hang out with me beacuse I am uncomplicated – I make no demands emtotionally.
We are all very successful and are sorted as to what we want. But to tell you the truth, I think this “hanging out” bit is working too well in our busy lives and now I want more she said wistfully.

Would you marry someone who is not so successful, not from your media world or could even be divorced? The pretty face recoiled with disgust – never! Money is very important and I have worked very hard to be where I am today and he better be very successful.I can do without love but money is very important. And please no second hands!

She shuffled the cards.

Core of the reading along with the surrounding cards was The Hermit. The Hermit stands alone on the top of a mountain with a lantern in his hand. When The Hermit appears in your tarot reading, it may represent the loneliness you feel at the time. And remember, it is possible to feel more isolated and lonely in an unhappy relationship or marriage than when you are actually on your own!

I believe one of the greatest fears we have is the fear of loneliness, especially the loneliness that one feels when we are without a lover. This fear traps many people into unfulfilling or destructive relationships, or leads us into pursuing the wrong person just to avoid being on our own.

We all go through rough patches in our lives, all of us at some point, will have a life that is a bit…messy. No matter how wise, mature or cautious we are, it is bound to happen. Its a part of life..Some may choose to be vocal about it and the rest will grin and bear it.

But, rarely is anyone spared the sting of it. In the end, it is us – ourselves – that must clean up.

While our friends and family may help us through the hard times, we all still must have moments we go through alone. Those nights of sleeplessness, fits of sobbing and days of just aching.

Eventually it must be our decision to get up on our own two feet and take steps forward. It must be our own feet that carry the weight of our baggage. We must be the ones to dig ourselves out of whatever hole we have found ourselves in.

Sounds lonely? 🙂 Maybe, but it is all part of this crazy, happy, sad, magic, tragic, wonderful, terrible, irresistible ride.

And when we, come out of the other side, it will be a great day indeed. Now, don’t get me wrong, I would love to have a little “conversation” with the person who made that law that it is through hard times that we grow. Why couldn’t that be through hard laughter or something a little more enjoyable? I don’t know, but it’s not. And we just have to deal with it.

Yes, it is true that still, sometimes things seems a bit overwhelming. If this is the case, the Hermit card is suggesting you take time out for inner reflection. I believe you can transform your loneliness into solitude. Focus on contemplating positive opportunities and outcomes. Spend your time reflecting on past joys and accomplishments.

Consider what you can do with your life to create more satisfaction and fulfillment.

The Hermit is saying ‘take your time and chill out, don’t make any hasty or impetuous decisions.