There are those who claim they don’t chase it, yet seek the perfection of harmony in a relationship which is as elusive as the holy grail. Yet, they pursue – wanting to reach the eutopic place, yet, repelled having to deal with the the messy relationship stuff.
Happiness is okay, it’s just overrated in my book.
Remember none of us come into this life with a “How To Get It All Right” manual. There will be good days and there will be bad days. And unless you premeditate and keep engineering the fights because somewhere you realise it’s not worth your energy – you will be okay. We all have the ability to recognise in our relationships whether they are worth keeping or not. It has little to do with tolerance level or frustration but more to do with your commitment towards love. And love is a choice. Affection should not run hot and cold, and neither it should be given out as a condition. Life is too short to be loved in compartments or in bits and pieces. Be loved by someone who loves you as you are. Flawed, damaged, everything.
Happiness will come when you find the person who loves you in the fullest and kindest way. Not using their love as a bargaining tool, threatening to take it away if you do not do as they say. If you can’t be honest in a relationship and be able to bare your soul, I doubt if happiness will find you. You just don’t give up on the people you love. Fight to build the life you want and deserve.
Try letting go of things, and not be in relationships or jobs that threaten your well being. You’ll feel a lightness in your heart.
We spend an entire life, pleasing people around us, at least with people we love – be yourself and don’t be too hard on yourself.
Have the courage to say no to things that don’t nurture you, hold you up and make you happy. But, have also the courage to recognise something good and work through it.
Be kind and be in gratitude every day. Be it the people who work for you, the animals or just a friend who needs help getting a job or is going through a rough patch. Reach out to your resources and help.
There’s nothing called a “perfect relationship”. Relationships are tough. And we are tested constantly. Some of us more than the others. You can’t have the right answers always. You will fail. You will feel devastated. And that’s okay. Remember you have another day to prepare and do things a bit differently.
Be passionate about your work. Whatever it maybe. Create a space in which you can excel and then pursue it as a man possessed.
Listen to lots and lots of music. Take long walks in the nature. Lose yourself in the beauty of sound, let it course through your veins and lift you up.
Get out – literally. Step out of the house/work place for a bit to just marvel at the nature around you. And if you can’t – take some time off on weekends and walk in the nature. Just walk.