“I am so tired of being in this rut”. She lamented. Kriti a lovely woman of 35, with a lucrative career in finance was sitting in front of me looking dejected. “It’s the same thing again and again.” She carried on tiredly, “I can’t stand my job, I no longer recognize the person I’ve become. I wanted to be a hair dresser for as long as I can remember. But the family pressure of doing the done thing has undone me now”
I hear this sadly more often than I would like too. The inability to move from jobs, dead relationships or one sided relationships or inability to change directions from the chosen path. Kriti was fortunate – she knew what she wanted to be. And where she stood right now. The only issue was she was in her own way. In a lot of situations the frustration is more as there’s no clarity on who you are and who you want to be.
In Tarot, The Eight of Swords reflects that you feel trapped by your own thoughts and perspectives. The woman in this card is blindfolded and bound, trapping her into thinking that she has no way out. However, if only she could remove the blindfold and change her thinking, she would see that she does indeed have options. So, the Eight of Swords suggests that you need to look at a difficult situation from a new angle. Draw upon your intellectual self and your emotional self to determine the best path forward, one that avoids any possible victimisation or restriction.
The simplest way often is it to set goals – small one’s . And start achieving them. They can be as simple as going to the gym regularly or not having that second ciggrette or saving a little as soon as you have some money on you.
Most importantly understand yourself – accept your short comings and know that you’re allowed to scream, allowed to cry, but you’re not not allowed to give up on yourself.
Life is too short to spend another day at war with yourself.
It’s okay if sometimes the pain has been unbearable you thought you wouldn’t survive the grief and sometimes the joy has been so powerful that you thought your heart could not contain it – sometimes you pined for something and sometimes you tore your hair out because it was there, you won and you lost, okay so maybe you lost more than you won.
Maybe it has been more rough than smooth maybe friends/co -workers have cheated you often maybe your own family has been unsupportive, but then don’t you see my friend this is how life is? You have layers and layers of you – you are fragile and you are strong. Why don’t you choose to rest more on the steel inside you?
Choose your consequence. Who is stopping you, but you? We need to get out of our own way. If you want to do something…then do it…what is stopping you?
Choose to be happy. Happiness requires effort – sadness is lazy. You have to fight for it, strive for it, at times even insist upon it . You have to be relentless.
The happiest people i know are relentless in their pursuit of chasing their dreams, their goals.
Be that person.